Love and Use

I was reading the Facebook message from Spirit Science which read as follows: “People were created to be loved and things were created to be used. The reason the world is in chaos because things are being loved and people are being used. Tag line: Educate, Inspire and Change.”

Every time I read an inspiring post like this, I take my time to think how I can apply this in my real life in future and to judge my life up to date how does it sound when I apply this to my past life. When I was in my childhood, I learned how to love and be loved by watching my parents. Somewhere down the line as my mind started building Meta data to be used for application in life, I lost the technique of how to unconditionally love everyone around me. When I hate being judged by others, I have no hesitation of judging people. I am constantly trying to unconditionally provide my services to others around me but at the same time lower my expectations from them. But I fail to do so again and again. I hate the barter system of giving something to get something, but that is what I end up doing. If I have nothing to receive from someone around me, I have no use for him/her. In simple terms I am constantly using people or attempt to use them to make my life better.

How do I make my mind to offer my capabilities to people around me to the best of my ability without thinking what they could offer in return? If they don’t offer their full potential to people around them, isn’t it their problem not mine? Why am I trying to resolve the issues of others by judging them, when I seek to retain my issues as is even if someone judges and tells me my problems? Aren’t they doing me a favor by telling me what I ought to have found out on my own? Does learning our defects from others tantamount to using others and their capabilities?

I realized that the only way I was going to offer my capabilities to others without expecting anything in return is by treating them as though I treat myself. In other words, I need to love them as much as I love myself. Let others worry about their character building and let me focus on building my own character. It is gratifying to my mind to establish its superiority over others and that is how I judge others when I refuse to accept their judgment about me. I have to stop stroking my ego. People around me are doing me a favor by pointing out my mistakes and even if it is not a mistake, I can always ignore that comment. Let me receive the communication with open heart and analyze it with my Meta data to fix my problems as opposed to helping others fix their problems. The feedback from others help us refine our character and those experiences are exclusively created for my benefit. It will not tantamount to using others. Let me learn to love others unconditionally without using them on a barter system.

Similarly, I have great pride in owning my house, car, mobile phone, watch, shoes, outfits, etc. I consider them as my status symbol, a recognition of my capabilities in the society. That is why I always seek the most expensive asset to own. My decisions are not based on what is useful to me as opposed to what would bring recognition for me in the society. It doesn’t matter whether I live in a palace or small house, I am going to use it only to brush, shower, exercise, eat and sleep. Whether it is BMW or Hyundai, both are capable of transporting me from one place to another. Mobile phones are only to communicate and not for establishing my status in the society. Expensive watches, shoes, outfits, etc. are purchased by me only to cheat myself that I would like to appear professional when the real reason is little different. It is gratifying to my mind to establish its superiority over others and that is how I end up owning assets that others can’t afford. My mind has to be trained to own the assets as a trustee in temporary custody of such assets. The day this frame falls, they no longer belong to me. I have the right to use those assets only during the period I am licensed to live. Let me take care of my needs when I am alive as opposed to my wants.

These are facts that hit me hard but they are for real. Let me educate, inspire and change my mind slowly and steadily to learn to love and act unconditionally to help others instead of using them while use the assets as a trustee instead of loving them. Practicing to love people and hold assets in trust are key to my transformation.

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