In my area, it is the MIL who gifts a lot for their DILs. My mom gifts a lot for my SIL, my aunts also do the same. My sister has recently got some beautiful gold jewels from her MIL as a gift on her B'day. But in the past 6+ years of my marriage life, I received nothing, absolutely nothing from my MIL. She never gifted anything to my co-sisters either.
Gifts, Gifts, Gifts???
Having said that, I know the gift culture and custom is different from each other. Please distract your H's gift expectation from the beginning. Tell him that he will not receive any gifts from your parents as a custom, but out of courtesy they may occasionally share some gifts with him. Be very clear with him. Also, tell him that you are not gonna share his gift requests with your family since you are fully aware of YOUR customs. If possible, ask H to do something to get a gift for yourself from his mom.
Leave this Gift topic at that. If he opens this discussion again, give the same message, and cut the discussion immediately. Please don't give in. Dont share wihj your folks.
He will learn to eventually cut down his expectations.
Gifts, Gifts, Gifts???
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