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Charter Schools/Public Schools - Need Suggestions

There are pros and cons to it. Do you live in a good school district? If yes, I wouldn't bother about Charter school/magnet school. Charter school have excellent academics and they are more result oriented. If the child is too academic oriented and not much into sports then Charter school is good. This you will know only when the kid is in 4th/5th after trying out different activities. At elementary level not much extra-curricular activities are offered in schools in our state.

As you said extra-curricular might be minimum for example if your child develops interest in music either chorus or band/orchestra not sure if all charter schools provide enriching music learning. They might offer some extra-curricular but not lot of options. There will be lot of homework starting from middle school level which might give less time for extra curricular activities.

Also it may not be apparent in elementary/middle school level but peer pressure starts building up towards high school especially among Asian community. If only top 2% of a race, could make it to IVY league (that's what all our asian parents have an eye on) imagine the peer pressure. I have heard that teachers don't stick with Charter schools for long and some times kids need to take extra help outside the school to catch up with the curriculum offered. it's not easy to get into charter schools mostly they get filled up by lottery.

There are two charter schools where I live and one is the top in the state. Kids that come out of that one despite of all the other challenges get placed in good colleges. The other charter school has only until 8th grade and they do a good job too.

We are in public school system, we moved from most populated indian community to a diverse community now which also has a good school system and we see remarkable change/growth/exposure for our children. Not sure if it's the age or school system or diversification but it has worked out in their favor. They do have lot of after-school activities starting from middle school (it depends on the school system too) but my kids select one or two they really like and just do that.

Good luck !!!

Charter Schools/Public Schools - Need Suggestions

Monogrammed hankies

Hi,

I have embroidered a number of hankies with monograms and gifted to my friends. Most of the designs are taken from Mary Corbet's Needle 'n Thread site. I would like to thank Mary Corbet for her lovely monograms. Please give your valued opinion.
Best wishes.

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Frankly Speaking: Arnab Goswami interviews Arvind Kejriwal

This is a spoof on the way Arnab conducts his interviews. He dwells and drills the guests too much on unimportant issues.

Arnab: We have Delhi CM Mr.Arvind Kejriwal as our guest today. Welcome Mr. Kejriwal.

AK: Thanks Arnab. Greetings to all the viewers.

Arnab: Mr. Kejriwal, thanks for taking out time to attend this interview. I know you are very busy with all that is going on in Delhi. But you know, our viewers need to be informed.

AK: I don't mind it. I have dedicated my life to the service of the people.

Arnab: Mr. Kejriwal, we have met twice before in this setting and I have observed you over the years. One thing I noticed is that you never coughed before 2011 but suddenly you started coughing, the first time in December 2012 and then it stopped and then it restarted, exactly in December 2014. So my question is why did you change your behavior? Are you faking coughing?

AK: You see Arnab, I am honest, I ....

Arnab: Mr. Kejriwal, you are deflecting my question. My question is are you faking coughing?

AK: I am answering your question, let me speak. You see I am honest, I ...

Arnab: Mr. Kejriwal, you are again deflecting my quesion. I am asking you a simple question, are you faking coughing? It is as simple as Yes or No.

AK: Arnab, Can I speak now?

Arnab: Go ahead, you are the guest. We want our guest to speak more.

AK: Thanks Arnab. So I am honest. When an honest person like me has to lie about other people or make promises that i know i can't fulfill, I get chocked, followed by a chronic cough attack. Just like if Aloknath, who believes in peace, is asked to beat a goon, his hand will rise as if he is giving a blessing. Similarly, ....

Arnab: Mr. Kejriwal. That is not my question. I am repeating 3rd time my question, Are you faking coughing?

AK: I get these chronic cough attack everytime ......

Arnab: I did my research on chronic cough. It can happen anytime of the day. However, your coughing seems to start at around 4 pm and end at 8 pm. I have seen all the videos of your meetings and i have observed that your coughing is a dry chocking cough and not a chronic cough. In a chronic cough, you have a heavy dry cough followed by a cough with mucous. So, Mr. Kejriwal, are you faking coughing?

AK: I get coughing attacks all the time. Coughing doesn't see the time of the day.

Arnab: No, Mr. Kejriwal. Our research team investigated and asked all your security guards if they heard you coughing at night. They said you don't cough at night. So, are you faking coughing?

AK: Arnab, at night, i don't have to lie to anyone or give promise to anyone, so the chronic coughing attack does not come.

Arnab: But Mr. Kejriwal, you also went to Bangalore to get treated for the cough and diabetes. However, our research says that you were mainly treated for diabetes and not for cough. Now you are not coughing. So were you faking coughing?

AK: Arnab, now i won the election with overwhelming majority so there is no need for me to lie or make promises so I don't get coughing attacks.

Arnab: I will let our viewers decide if you were faking coughing or not. Let's poll our viewers. Viewers, do you believe Mr. Kejriwal was faking coughing?

Arnab: oh that was quick, we received 66 replies, all from Delhi. 65 said No, 1 said Yes.

AK: See Delhi people still believe me and majority believes me.

Arnab: Mr. Kejriwal all of them were AAP MLAs.

AK: I hate Yes-mens. (thinking, I thought I drove away all the dissidents, who is the one that is still remaining).

Arnab: So, Mr. Kejriwal, thanks for joining me even though you didn't answer my question, it is always a pleasure to have you.

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Baby diaries.....

Day 1:

Dear diary,

Today I was sleeping cozily in my space, not able to decide between playing football and thumb sucking, when suddenly I felt my body being pushed and squeezed. More pushing and more squeezing…. Jeez! Whatever or whoever is doing it, please stop it already. Finding it difficult to breathe….

Phew! Finally its over!!! And here I am in this horrible cold bright place!!!

Aaah its too bright man. Shut it off somebody….

Then I cried.

And then I heard sighs of relief all around!

It seems i’ve just been born!!

Well, happy birthday to me!

Day 7:

Dear diary,

Been a tiring week. Not dat I did much else than sleep all day.

Still getting used to all this brightness though.

But, Im kinda liking it here.

There is this lady who is at my beck and call. She seems to be very eager to please. And very panicky around me. She gets all weird if I so much as sneeze. This lady seems to my source of food. Will call her food-y henceforth.

All day long someone or the other seems to be visiting me. Giving me gifts and stuff. This lady who gives me food says I ve Earned quite a bit of money. Whatever that means.

Then a strange guy came today. He seems very awkward around me. He dint even know how to hold me properly. And seems really terrified when I cried. Seems to be a dodo. Not a bright guy I guess.

The Lady though seems to be kinda smart and intelligent. She manages to calm me down when I voice my needs.

Day 10:

Too many ladies around me these days. The dodo guys is gone. Another guy who looks very old , well atleast 100 years old came and tried to Make loud weird noises. I dint like it one bit. So I screamed my head off. Well, that seems to have put him off. Another ancient lady is always around eager to please me and is forever instructing my food-y.

The inflow of visitors yet to stop.

Getting to wear new clothes everyday. Loving all the attention. J

Day 14:

The dodo guy is back! Kept sitting and staring at me all day long. Have a feeling he wanted to hold me but was scared.

Am I that scary?? Anyways, he is kinda ok, I guess.

Day 18:

Farted today! Embarrassed! But, the food-y n ancient lady seemed to think it was veryyyyy funny!!!

Food-y is very attentive to my needs I must say. I am impressed with her.

Bathed today! Don’t like the pre bath massage one bit. The old lady is very rough with me. But I dint co-operate. I screamed my head off…………………

Day 21:

Dodo is back again. Beginning to see a pattern of his visits. he bought me new clothes! Such a sweetheart na..!

New toys also came in today. The bright colored ones that make harsh noises. Scared me really!

Dodo guys hasn’t learnt yet to hold me properly. I pissed on him. Yay!!!

Day 28:

Hectic day today. They woke me up early. Made me wear a white cloth. And took me someplace which was really really crowded. All ancient people there. Kept yelling and trying to grab me. Kept doing weird things to me. Made me wear a black big thing on my forehead like the ancient lady wears.

Oh my god, what an eventful day!

Day 35:

I farted and food-y thought I smiled! How funny!!!!

Day 42:

Dear diary,

I’m in love!!!! He is just the sweetest thing I tell u…..

So cute, bright and useful.

I just cant help smiling when he is around!

They said he was ‘fan’. Isn’t his name just wonderful.

Oh how much I love him.

to be continued......................

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Spatika shivalingam

Hi

I would like to know if there is a Shiva lingam like this and if it is where is it located?

It's a Spatika lingam on the outside that shields the black linga on the inside. The inside lingam has the three vibuthi stripes. There is a small crystal on the top of Spatika lingam too. If you visualize the lingam being offered abhishekam the internal black linga with the vibuthi will still be seen .

Any pointers would be appreciated.

Thank you

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for conceving

My brother had got married in the year 2006 but they don't have children till now please let me know whether my sister-in-law will conceive or not if so also suggest the remedies to be followed their date of births are given below
brother : 11-09-1974

sister-in-law : 10-05-1985

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First time in IL

I do not know whether anyone noticed that first time in IL I have not written in snippets since 11th March 2015. Might be I did not have anything to write, also after I came back from Dubai my mbs were increasing in the net, so I was not using the net much. I did not have unlimited mb . Now recently only my son has taken unlimited mb. All these years I have been using computer as I wished and I did not have any problem but this month only everyday I had to check the mb and use it accordingly. Luckily now that problem is solved.

YOu all know how much I am addicted to IL. When there is no net I even go to the cafe because I dont like to miss IL even a day. When I went to Dubai also I could log in because my daughter has laptop. But when I go to other places it is difficult.

Now I could not stop from posting for the 10th year celebration. But I posted all in a hurry thinking of the mb should not go up.

Hope you all understood what I have written

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Those little things that bring a smile!

I look around my house and the dishes are screaming out loud to be cleaned and the sink wants to be unburdened, the back packs are still on the floor where the kids have left them but I am in no mood to pick them up nor am I in a mood to yell at them. It is spring break after all you see. Like me they hear the birds, the gentle breeze, even spot a quick bunny running across, a stray cat searching for that fish in our pond, the swing sitting there pretty and no rushing in and out of the door, back and forth from school. All they want to do is play and that is okay.

I am drawn back to that kitchen sink and I feel that it can wait! You tell me, the same dishes, the same floor and the fact is all it takes is an hour to spruce up. And anyways after that long run all I want is just to sit. Talking of the run I have to tell you the weather has been well, moody. One day, a perfect day for the run and the next it has me scrambling around for my gloves and guess what the perfect run day almost always happens to be our rest day. Well I tell you what, I hear the birds, I see the Sun come up sooner and I even see the plants slowly emerging from under the ground while a few brave ones even show off their colors. Ah well brave or not, sun or not, chirping or not the day seems long ahead of me with that very looong run. But I am determined more than ever to 'just keep running'.

As I head out with the group, I realize I am in no mood to talk. Even if I want to I know I have a good four to five hours to talk with whoever is running with me at that point in time and I also know that I cannot, even 'I' cannot keep up talking for that long. With that in mind, I begin the run silently of course not wondering about the route but only focusing on getting to that next water stop for I know every water stop I pass means I have run that much, that many miles behind me. While the mouth is quiet not talking the mind can hardly stay still. But the long runs have a way of teaching you that, that stillness. We converse but thoughts somehow don't build up sometimes. I know what you are saying, it must be the people in the group or it must be me. Well either which way, we understand the value of silence when our focus is just on reaching that next fire hydrant and if there is not one, we get busy searching for one or finding another goal debating which tree we meant in a long line of trees. It can get fun and meditative I tell you.

As I focus on the hydrants, evenly placed on one side of a street, I am reminded of a young girl on a farm. Shh...I thought of those dogs too and cracked up many times while running! Getting back to that young girl, I am in the country and can some what take liberties as I sit in the back of their pick up truck and drive towards their farm which was not too far away. She wanted to show us her horses that she trains for some competitions. When I ask her as to what is the key to her success, she smiles and with a look that says I have found the key mentions "I have learnt that a little bit of training every day goes a long way for both of us compared to the last minute scrambling around!" I have never been able to forget that and think of her once a day at least and wish her the best. Today as I trudge along, I am reminded of her more than ever.

I come home, sit on the couch feeling the aches and pains in the usual places, making sure there is no new pain, acknowledging all the parts of the body that I did not know existed, thanking them for being so co operative that day. I spread my yoga mat and as I stretch, I am reminded of that yoga teacher at the gym who usually is so talkative that all I want to do is beg her to give me a minute of silence so that I can enjoy my pose. You have it right. I am so afraid of going to her class for I fear I might end up saying that out loud not meaning to, such is my intense need for silence. But today, as I try to stretch, from all that chatter and that image of her walking quietly but very quickly across the class, all I remember is her voice telling us "I have had my practice, this is your practice do what you your body needs, not what I tell you!" Am I ever thankful to her as I experience those moments of "Ah ha! this is what I need" as I stretch each muscle out. I sure now know the meaning of "my own practice"

Finally I am ready for some tidying up. As I get back in to the kitchen, looking at my plants waiting to be taken out doors to get some fresh air and sunlight, I look at my orchids. Yes they are in bloom. They always bloom in the winter months, year after year and continue to be there smiling at me till my yard perks up towards the end of spring. It is almost like they want me to be happy, they seem to know that seeing them bloom in the peak of winter makes a difference to me. As I smile at them, I am reminded of a friend who when I mentioned the first time my orchids bloomed gave me the best advise ever that I should not re-pot them. As I think of that friend, smile and thank her, I make my way back to the computer. The dishes can wait a little longer, so can the rest of the cleaning!

Those little things that bring a smile!

the kindergarten starters, dubai mom's join this.

Hi all,

This is meenakshi from al nahda, sharjah. I have enrolled my daughter in The kindergarten starters, dubai. Anybody who have already put their kids in the kgs are Welcome! We

can discuss all things related to school here.

regards meenakshi.

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Gifts, Gifts, Gifts???

In my area, it is the MIL who gifts a lot for their DILs. My mom gifts a lot for my SIL, my aunts also do the same. My sister has recently got some beautiful gold jewels from her MIL as a gift on her B'day. But in the past 6+ years of my marriage life, I received nothing, absolutely nothing from my MIL. She never gifted anything to my co-sisters either.

Having said that, I know the gift culture and custom is different from each other. Please distract your H's gift expectation from the beginning. Tell him that he will not receive any gifts from your parents as a custom, but out of courtesy they may occasionally share some gifts with him. Be very clear with him. Also, tell him that you are not gonna share his gift requests with your family since you are fully aware of YOUR customs. If possible, ask H to do something to get a gift for yourself from his mom.

Leave this Gift topic at that. If he opens this discussion again, give the same message, and cut the discussion immediately. Please don't give in. Dont share wihj your folks.

He will learn to eventually cut down his expectations.

Gifts, Gifts, Gifts???

Fitness first: April beginings

Hi friends,

I am a regular at relationship forums but I have now vowed that more than anything else, I will now keep a tab on my health. Starting tomorrow, I have a fitness, as well as a diet plan.

I will be posting regularly in this space, about my progress.

I will be following a simple diet plan (that has been given to me by a dietitian)

Besides, in the morning, I will be visiting park for 30 minutes (it might including walking, brisk walking, running, etc.).

I will start with baby steps as I don't intend to leave anything in the middle and come back to my unhealthy ways.

I also plan to do 10-15 minutes of stationary biking at home, once I come back from office. Besides, there will be regular kapabathi for 5 minutes.

Let me post my stats:

Height: 5'4"

Weight: 79 Kgs

My ideal weight: 60Kgs

My dream weight: 50Kgs (When I used to be in college, phew!)

Please keep me in your prayers.

I need a lot of motivation!

Lots of Love

C

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Fitness first: April beginings

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கதை கேட்ட நாயை ……………. அடி!

ஓர் ஊரில் ஓர் அம்மையார் தனிமையில் வாழ்ந்தார். கணவரும் இல்லை- குழந்தைகளும் கிடையாது. ஆனால் அன்பாக ஒரு நாயை வளர்த்து வந்தார். பல வீடுகளுக்குச் சென்று பிச்சை எடுப்பார். முதலில் நாய்க்கு உணவு படைத்துவிட்டு தானும் சாப்பிடுவார்.

ஒரு நாள், அந்த நாய் மிகவும் அதி காலையில் எழுந்து "பசிக்கிறது, அம்மா! சோறு போடுங்கள்" என்றது. அவள் வீட்டிலோ அரிசியோ தானியமோ இல்லை. நாய் சொன்னது: "அம்மா! அடுத்த வீட்டு அம்மணியிடம் அரிசி கடன் வாங்குங்கள். நான் சாப்பிட்ட உடனே போய் பிச்சை வாங்கி வருகிறேன். அந்த அரிசியை அவரிடம் இன்றே கொடுத்து விடலாம்".

அவளும் அப்படியே செய்தாள். நாயும் சொன்னபடியே சாப்பிட்டு விட்டு வாயில் பிச்சைப் பாத்திரத்தைக் கவ்விக் கொண்டு வீடு வீடாகச் சென்றது. எல்லோருக்கும் ஒரே அதிசயம். வழக்கமாகப் போடும் பிச்சையைவிட இரண்டு மூன்று மடங்கு கூடுதலாகவே பிச்சை இட்டனர். அது எடை தாங்காமல், பக்கத்திலுள்ள செட்டியார் கடையில் கொடுத்தவுடன் அவர் அதற்கான பணம் கொடுத்தார். நாய் மீண்டும் ஒரு ரவுண்டு போனது.

பக்கத்தில் வாரச் சந்தை (மார்க்கெட்) கூடி இருந்தது. ஒரே கூட்டம். நாயும் பிச்சைப் பாத்திரத்துடன் சென்றவுடன் மக்கள் எல்லோரும் அதிசயமாக அதைப் பார்த்துவிட்டு, காசை அள்ளி வீசினார்கள். நாய் அதைத் தூக்க முடியாமல் சுமந்து சென்றது. சந்தையில் ஓர் ஓரத்தில் மக்கள் கூட்டமாக நின்று ராமாயண கதாகாலேட்சபம் ஒன்றை ரசித்துக் கொண்டிருந்தனர். அன்று அவர் சொன்ன கதை — சீதாப் பிராட்டியிடம் அனுமன் மோதிரம் கொடுத்துவிட்டு அவள் கொடுத்த சூளாமணியை வாங்கிச் செல்லும் கட்டம். இது போன்ற தருணத்தில் எல்லோரும் பாகவதருக்கு மோதிரம், நகைகள் வாங்கித் தருவர். அது முடியாதவர், அவர் தட்டில் காசு போடுவர்.

இதை எல்லாம் வேடிக்கை பார்த்த நாய் , கதை கேட்ட உற்சாகத்தில், தனது பிச்சைப் பாத்திரத்தில் இருந்த பணம், தானியம், எல்லா வற்றையும் ராமாயண பாகவதர் தட்டில் கொட்டியது. எல்லோரும் கைதட்டி ஆரவாரித்து நாயின் பக்தியைப் பாராட்டினர்.

இதற்குள் எஜமானி அம்மா வீட்டில் பலரும் நாயின் புகழைப் பாடிக் கொண்டிருந்தனர். அடீ! இனிமேல் உனக்கு ஒரு குறையும் இராது. உனது நாய் ஒரு வருஷத்துக்கான பத்தைக் கொண்டுவந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறது. அடியே! இனிமேல் உன் நாயையே பிச்சைக்கு அனுப்பு. நீ பணக்காரி ஆகிவிடுவாய்.

இப்படி எல்லாம் அவர்கள் பேசிக் கொண்டிருந்த போது நாய் வாலைக் குழைத்துக் கொண்டு ஆவலுடன் வந்தது. அவளும் மிக ஆசையோடு நாயை வரவேற்று உபசார மொழிகள் கூறி "என்ன இது? பிச்சைப் பாத்திரம் காலியாக இருக்கிறது?" என்று கோபத்தோடு கேட்டாள். நாய், தான் கதை கேட்ட விஷயத்தையும் எல்லோரைப் போலத் தானும் பாகவதருக்கே எல்லாவற்றையும் தானம் கொடுத்ததாகவும் பெருமையாகச் சொன்னது.

அவளுக்கிருந்த கோபம் பெரிதாக வெடித்தது. நாயைக் கண்டபடி திட்டி, "கதை கேட்ட நாயைச் செருப்பால அடி" – என்று சொல்லி நாலு அடிபோட்டாள். நாய் வெளியே ஓடிப் போய்விட்டது.

இதுதான் தமிழில் “கதை கேட்ட நாயைச் செருப்பால் அடி” – என்ற பழமொழிக்குக் காரணமாம்!

Jayasala 42

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lundi 30 mars 2015

Feeling betrayed. Can time really heal relationships? How?

My parents visited me to assist me after my baby was born. They couldn't stand my husband who has OCD and is a clean freak and always cleaning stuff and the mess they created. She never liked my husband nor his family. Then one day my mom picked up the fight and had a heated argument with my husband where she abused my husband, called my siblings and booked her flights and left me abandoned (just after two days I was discharged from hospital).

My husband and I were shocked with the type of move they have done. We both needed atleast some moral support especially when we didn't know that our baby was colic and he was crying day and night.

I'm very disheartened. DH tries to keep me happy, but I dream my parents. My mother expects my husband to appologise. My husband won't appologise coz he never started any argument. It was my mom. She abused. He only replied when she started.

My mom says that I'm nothing for her now as I didn't support her. My husband asks me to break all relations with her as she is a manipulative lady. I am very angry and upset with her for abandoning me when I needed her the lost. She never thought of me and left me. If she never visited me, I would have coped up with the crying baby and managed somehow. But coz in my mind I was like my mom is here to morally support me, I am more shaken and sad with what had happened.

My siblings blame my husband and me for not keeping my parents properly. Will time heal this relationship? Is there any future?!

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When Mango Men Come Marching In

A grim silence prevailed at the national executive meeting of the Mango Man Party . Every one maintained an appropriate poker face until the Sole Great Leader (SGL)broke the silence

“What the hell is going on ?” he cried. “ I heard that a member of the executive has been bashed up by bouncers outside this venue. Is this how the party functions?”

“What sort of a party are we. We have to hire bouncers to bash up dissidents!!!!!! Don’t we have in house goons to do such dirty jobs? Bouncers!!!!!!!!! Are we running a political party or a night club or disco?

One member raised his hand.

“Yes?” asked the SGL..

“Sir, every party has goons but we don’t and we hire bouncers to do the job isn’t it? He asked.

“Have I been talking in Swahili so far? That’s exactly what I said. I know I appreciate yessirbobs but still you don’t have to parrot everything that comes out of my mouth.”

“No boss. We don’t have goons. We hire bouncers because we are different. Aren’t we the party that makes a difference?”

“We are also a volunteer –driven party. So what about the volunteers?”

“What about them?”

“Why couldn’t they have bashed up the unwelcome guys who question my status as SGL?”

“Sorry boss, but the volunteers didn’t volunteer. But hiring bouncers has its advantages”

“What advantages?”

”First we generate jobs. There are more bouncers than nightclubs can employ. Quite a lot of them are jobless and running out of touch with their profession. By employing them we generate jobs, prevent those guys from rusting and help them bring home bread to their family”.

That is great., Even while failing on the task of generating water, power and taking care of sanitation in the city we are generating jobs. Why didn’t I think of that before?”

Another acolyte of the Great Leader raised his hand.

“Well, shoot”.

We have a request from our southern units. They say bouncers are not enough. There it is impossible for them to be recognized as a political party unless they have in house goons.. Every party has them and it is a vital status symbol there. And sumo……”

That is the limit!!!!!!!! We can’s hire Sumo wrestlers from Japan to make a chutney out of malcontents. We may make a difference but not that much difference”

“Not sumo wrestlers boss but Tata Sumos. Goons are not respected as goons there unless they move around in Tata Sumos. If they don’t arrive in these SUVs for bashing up sessions they are just laughed off. It is a question of credibility boss. There nobody votes for a party without goons without Sumos”.

“Oh dear, never thought that running a political party would cost pretty packet.” groaned the, .SGL.

True but we need them because everyone with some credibility seems to be rushing out of the party likes rats deserting a sinking ship. That could lead to dwindling of the flock. Without the goons we can’t keep peop,le in line. Look what will happen if no one except you believes that you are the SGL.”

“Things we are forced to do to maintain the inner party democracy.” sighed SGL. “So let us do the needful for it and conclude the meeting here”>

“The meeting ended with the singing of the party anthem” Bhaja Arvindam, Bhaja Arvindam, Arvindam Bhaja moodamathe”..

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This Picture Touched My Heart

This picture is so sweet and pure it made me cry few times today.
God is carrying for our Babies while we wait for them.

Honestly I feel God's Love when looking at this picture than at any other time. I feel God's presence when I see this picture. This is the first time I felt that way.

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Moving to Alpharetta/Dunwoody....... Any Suggestions

Hi Ladies

My name is Megha. I'm glad to have joined IndusLadies. My family is moving to Atlanta and we are excited about it.

But along with excitement there is some Anxiety about moving to new place.

I wanted to find out good Apartment/Houses to rent in good area. My husbands Job location is close to Dunwoody. Im a working mom, my girl is 4 yr old so we are looking for good daycare and school district.

Any input will help us!

Thanks

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No gifts by husband :(

I know this is a silly issue, but I do feel bad sometimes that my husband doesnt think he has to get me any gifts, even for birthdays and anniversaries. I did not care for many years, but call it mid-life crisis, I get mad and sad, sometimes burst out at him.

Yesterday, he was promising his mother a laptop and an Ipad, and I yelled at him that he never thought I needed those myself, he got mad that I bring up his family in fights and left the scene. This is what happens everytime, he gets mad, I get sad and get nothing in the process. :(

When it comes to his family, he loves to buy them expensive stuff, I used to tell him to not spend much money on me knowing our financial situations, now its always money calculations when it comes to gifting me.

Just venting out...

Edit - Have to add, he doesnt expect anything from me, but I do gift him small things on occasions and he feels happy about them.

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My success story

Hi ILs,

I used to go through this thread everyday number of times 2 years back. I want to share my success story with you guys.

I also tried to become pregnant for so long time. I was 24 years old when I started trying to conceive. It took me 2 years to become pregnant. Initially I thought becoming pregnant is so easy. So, me and my husband planned for children only 2 years after the marriage. But after we started trying, I understood that it is not easy as we think. Every month I used to cry after I get menstrual cycle. All my friends around me were becoming pregnant. Seeing all that I used to question myself, where I am wrong? After 8 months, I thought to consult gyn and get a check up. She told everything is fine. Then I started doing fertility yoga dvd for women everyday morning and evening. Then my cycles came into order for exact 27 or 28 days, before they were somewhere from 24 to 28 days. Good improvement from first month only. I did that for 6 months and still no progress. Then I bought ovulation kit to check if I am ovulating and used it every month until I became pregnant in parallel with yoga did. It showed I am ovulating. No progress. Then I went gyn again got an ultrasound and HSG test. They came back fine. My husband test results also came back fine. But suddenly after HSG test I did not ovulate for 3 months as I checked with kit and bbt chart. I used to follow bbt chart as well to track my cycle. I went for acupuncture in parallel with yoga for 2 months. No progress.i stopped it.

Then I came across Baba Ramdev's yoga for childless couple and thought to give it a try as well.me and my husband started following his yoga everyday. I did it morning 1 hr and evening 1 hr everyday except on first five days in parallel with yoga dvd and healthy food.first month Got menstrual period and no ovulation. Second cycle I ovulated but late and it was a 32 day cycle. Third cycle I ovulated but 2 week cycle. Fourth cycle I ovulated perfectly on 14 th day and became pregnant.

I also did lot of prayers. I prayed lord shiva on modays, read shasti kavacham on Tuesdays, read santhana gopala swamy mantra on Wednesdays, read Lalita sahasranamam on Fridays, read hanuman chalisa on Tuesdays and Saturdays. Followed fasting on every shasti day every month for 6 months. Ordered ghee from garbarakshambigai amma temple. These all I did.

stay with positive mind.it is not easy to stay calm but try to keep your mind as positive as you can through out your cycle as every phase in a cycle is important.That will help you a lot.Try to divert your mind on your hobbies.

Also one of my parents neighbor became pregnant and delivered twins at 48 years of age , just few months back.

Keep hope in God and do yoga and if you can do baba ramdev's yoga and follow a good diet and maintain weight. All the best guys.

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solids and milk at 9 months.

I give my baby about 35 ( 6 feeds of about 6 ounces) ounces of FF and one is dream fed which I want to stop now.

Also she is on 3 or 4 times solids. I do not exactly measure but may be 3-4 ozs of solids

Milk:

FF: 6oz X 6 times.

I have started giving her cows milk thinned with water(50%-50% for now). I have graduated to replace 1 feed with cows milk now.. but not everyday. I alternate.

Solids :

mornings - yogurt + egg/fruit mixed or banana

afternoon - porridge/yogurt or khichadi (rice or mixed malt or oats )

evening -puree or fruit

dinner - porridge/ yogurt or roti/yogurt or puree or khichadi.

puffs or biscuits in between. She loves yogurt.

Schedule:

Morning feed@ 7:30 am.

Last feed@ 11 pm... she does not wake up for it but we feed her.

My doc@6mons visit had said to reduce to 28 ounces but she demands.

can you please suggest your babies diet after 9+ months ? what improvements needs.

I want to cut her 11pm feed but feeding it makes easier for mornings. Its difficult to wake up at 5-6 am to feed for us as we sleep very late.

Also on weekends I think I feed her every 2-3 hours ( either milk or solids). Going out with her is very difficult for me. Her solids intake suffers even if i carry it along Any suggestions? how do you manage?

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Please help me regarding 6 O'Clock plant and Table rose plant(Moss rose)

Hi friends,

Please help me

I have heard of 6 O'Clock,10 O'Clock plants and etc

Please tell me it there are any flowers like that and their details

My friend's grandmother says that yellow colour clock flowers are 4 O'Clock and red flowers are 6 O'Clock

Is that true?

Please show me their photos also

Please tell me about Table rose plant,also know as Moss roses

Please give me some tips regarding them too

Is 6 O'Clock is a desert plant?
Thanks in advance

Waiting for your replies

Regards,

Parvathi

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Recurrent Urinary Infection - Please help

Have you checked with doctor? Is there an underlying reason why she is getting UTI? I think your sis should get that checked.

As for home-remedies, horsegram is excellent for UTI. However since your sister is pregnant I would advise caution as this is heat producing. Soak horsegram in water overnight and drink the water.

Banana stem juice, radish esp black radish, watermelon are all very good in preventing UTI.

Cranberries/cranberry juice is also good for treating UTI.

I would have your sister discuss all these foods with her doctor since she is pregnant.

Recurrent Urinary Infection - Please help

aal paathi, aadai paathi

'ஆள் பாதி, ஆடை பாதி ' தான்.

உலகம் உடையின் உயர்வைக் கண்டு மதிக்கிறது.உள்ளத்தின் உயர்வை உன்னுவதில்லை .

சிவ பெருமான் தோலாடை உடுப்பவர்.

திருமால் பட்டாடை உடுப்பவர்.

பாற்கடல் என்ன செய்தது.?அது கூட ஆடம்பரத்தை விரும்பியது .தோலாடை உடுக்கும் சிவனாருக்கு ஆலால விடத்தை அளித்தது.பட்டாடை உடுக்கும் பரந்தாமனுக்கு தன மகள் இலக்குமி தேவியை ஈந்தது.இந்த கருத்தை விளக்கும் -பாடல்:

"மேலாடை இன்றிச் சபை புகுந்தால் இந்த மேதினியோர்

நூலாயிரம் படித்தாலும் எண்ணார் ;நுவல் பாற்கடலோ

மாலா னவரணி பொன்னாடைகண்டு மகளைத் தந்தே

ஆலாலம் ஈந்தது தோலாடை சுற்றும் அரன் தனக்கே."

ஒரு சமயம் அவ்வையார் மதுரையில் பாண்டிய மன்ன னுடைய திருமணத்துக்குச் சென்றார்.எளிமையான உடை உடுத்தியிருந்த ஔவையாரை அரண்மனைக் காவலர்கள் தள்ளி விட்டார்கள்.

பாவம், மதுரையை விட்டே புறப்பட்டு விட்டார்.எதிரே சிலர் " தமிழ்த் தாயே,பாண்டிய வேந்தனின் திருமணம் சிறப்பாக நடக்கிறதாமே.தாங்கள் நல்ல விருந்துண்டு மகிழ்ந்தீர்களா?" என வினவினர்.

அப்போது ஔவை "உண்டேன் உண்டேன் உண்டேன் 'என்று நீளமாகக் கூறினார்.

" என்ன, விருந்து மிக பலமோ?" என்றனர்.

உடனே ஒளவை "தெளிந்த வல்ல பாண்டியனின் மகத்தான திருமணத்திலே நான் உண்ட உயர்வை உரைக்க வேண்டுமா?" என்று ஒரு அருமையான பாடலைக் கூறினார்.

"வண்டமிழைத் தேர்ந்த வழுதி கலியாணத்

துண்ட பெருக்கம் உரைக்கக் கேள் -அண்டி

நெருக்குண்டேன் தள்ளுண்டேன் நீள் பசியினாலே

சுருக்குண்டேன் சோறு ண்டிலேன்"

உண்டிலாத சுவையே இவ்வாறெனில்,வயிறு நிறைய

உண்டிருந்தால் கவிச் சுவை எப்படி இருக்கும்?

Jayasala 42

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Dance jewellery and accessories

Hi,
I am looking for addresses for any stores in Hyderabad that sell dance jewellery and ghungroos (for Bharatanatyam / Kutchipudi). I need to purchase some by this weekend, so if you can send me addresses it would be really helpful.

Thanks!

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cross stitch saree

Hi all,

This is a cross stitch done on silk saree with the help of nets. I don't know what the cloth is called so I am calling it 'net'. This is first fixed on the saree and then the cross stitch is done on it. Once the embroidery is over, we have to pull out the threads which leaves the design behind.

If anybody can let me know the name of the net used , please let me know.

Please leave your valuable comments.

Sumita

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Chickenpox

Hello everyone!

My wife n daughters have arrived in India on 3 weeks holidays. My elder daughter(6 years) is already chicken pox vaccinated. The query I have is with respect to the younger one (8 months). My wife is visiting her parents, and her niece has chicken pox. We were so excited about the cousins (my daughters n my wife's niece) getting to spend time together, but as she (the niece) contracted chicken pox, I am not sure, how do we go about it?

I think, I can trust the vaccination for elder one, but as younger one isn't vaccinated yet (it can only be given after she turns 12 months), I am concerned/worried about her. What precautions we can take so she's safe from the viruses? Is there anything that can be done?

Many Thanks in advance!

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When?

Every grain of sand

In this vast seashore

Reminds you as I stand

Alone now, my eyes pour!

Each conch that I take

To my ear, says your name.

I now lost all my stakes

Henceforth will remain the same.

This is where we met last,

You ran in to the water fast.

I raced too, but you went past.

You won then, now I'm lost.

Someone's presence is at best

Known in the absence, I know.

What I don't know is just

When you'll come back, you know?

In the gentle drizzle that pours,

In the evening sun that shines,

In the rainbow that just soars,

I see you. You are always mine!

There may come a day when

I go to that point where

The sky and earth join! Then

I will be with you, for sure!

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எங்கே?

நிலவும், தாரகைகளும் அற்ற வான்,

நீள்குழல் சூடா மலர் நிறை சோலை,

நிலமென்று சொல்ல முடியா உவர்மண்,

நீண்டு விரிந்த படி இருக்கும் பாலை,

சிரிப்பைத் தொலைத்த மாந்தர்,

செழுமை மறைந்த வயல்கள்,

இழப்பே அடைந்த வேந்தர்,

இனிமை அற்ற குயில்கள்,

இவையெல்லாம் காணலாம் இன்றும்!

எனை மட்டும் காணாதெங்கும்

அலையாதீர்! மிஞ்சாது ஒன்றும்!

அவள் போனதும், போனதென் உயிரும்!

எங்கே?

Reviews for New Millennium School Al Khail

Hello,

I know there is already a thread about New Millennium school but it's more about springdales then New Millennium school.

Is there anyone whose child is going to "New Millennium"? I am really looking for some reviews , I want to shift my child from British to Indian curriculum.

Please reply if you have any idea about school, it will be easier for me to take decision.
Thanks in Advance...

Ponam

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Apollo fish fry during pregnancy

hi, i am in my 7th month and yesterday I had 3 small pieces of Apollo fish fry in the restaurant. I am worried now as some fishes contain mercury levels, is it safe to take Apollo fish. what about mercury levels in this fish?

Hi,

If you feel any abnormalities visit your Doctor immediately.

But keep in mind avoid all kind of Outside foods completely Like Mc Donald, KFC, Apollo etc.,

If you wish to have any food, just buy items and make in home and take!

All the Best!

Apollo fish fry during pregnancy

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I am married in May 2013. My age is 26 and DH is 27. Ours is a Love married.

I got conceived in October 2013 but we had to terminate it at 2 weeks due to some professional issues.

From December 2013 we have used 'Saheli' contraceptive pills for an year till October 2014.. i.e., for 10 months..

I have Thyroid prob which is currently 2.86... I previously have PCOD but are cleared now...

From November to February, We are trying to conceive.. Doc was giving me medicines for follicles growth.. Only one month I had injection for follicles to rupture.. Remaining months they ruptured normally...

My Husband has Sperm Court ranging from 57Million to 65Million in the last 3 months with 40% motility...

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Wheat atta..not healthy to keep kneaded atta for long

Hi All,

I wanted to know whether it is not healthy to keep chapati atta kneaded and kept for long.

I usually knead it in the night and keep it in the fridge for next day use. One of my friends told me that it is not healthy and it causes Type 2 diabetes since the starch will be converted to sugar and is not good for health. I tried googling , but did not get much information.

Can someone throw some light please ?

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dimanche 29 mars 2015

some designs i have collected from IL ... hope it wl be helpful to all newcomers

munnar places travelling time

Hi

I am starting from Coimbatore to munnar. It takes me around 3 hr to reach munnar..thete are nearly 10 important places in munnar..

Mattupetty Dam,

Eravikulam National Park,

Anamudi,

Devikulam,

Attukal Waterfalls,

Echo Point,

Nyayamakad,

Photo Point,

Muniyara Dolmens,

Pothemadu Point

Munnar, Points of interest
Whether all the places are near to each other?if we ate going in car can we see all the places in one day..?

Thanks in advance

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Evil thought killing me please help

Hi all,

This is my first post in this forum. Please ladies advice me and help me to come out of this. I consider you all as my sister since I don't have one.

From last July I am very depressed due to my health problems and if I go to doctor they tell your mind is disturbed, be positive and you will b OK. They asked me to indulge in god prayers and work. I am doing but sometimes I go mad. I even went to psychological treatment but in vain.I can't control my mind. My problem is when I sit before god for pooja or prayer I have evil thoughts about god like don't waste time he will not save you, why are you wasting money on doing pooja and don't put moneybin hundi it's not worth and also have bad thought that I am pressing my leg on venkatachalapathy and Lakshmi amma photo. I feel some force is making me to think like this. I feel I am not fit to be a good wife or good mother. I want to stay in some ashram leaving them. I get angry and all my relatives term me as mad and they don't want to speak with me. Some people are feeling happy for this. I pity my son and my hubby. My hubby lost their parents some years and no brothers and sisters. In four years of marriage we are blessed with beautiful son and own house this made our relatives envy on me. They think I am so blessed as I don't have mil and film but I myself only know how difficult it is without them. I respect them but they are also not saving me in hard times. I now pray to saibaba but sometimes negative thoughts come there also.. Please ladies save me . oneday I went to a point of killing me and my son at my mom place as she also not believing me I have a problem. I repent for this every single day whenever I see my child face and my hubby is not understanding me he always shouts at me and making me angry. I feel like everything is over and I am not interested in family life. If human have problem they pray to god to save. In my case God does not want me to pray to him. I don't know where ican go.... I don't have friends or true soul to express my feelings that's why I wrote here please ladies input your advice keep in my mind my son and his future.

Urgent advice needed how to overcome evil thoughts while praying to god....

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PCOS is Depressing.....!!!! HELP needed.....!!!

This is totally out of left field, but have you considered meditation?

I'd aim for 30 minutes after waking up, 30 minutes before sleep.

My periods used to be quite irregular, but after meditation, it is coming to balance.

Perhaps meditation may be the answer. Just start with baby steps, i.e. 5 minutes, then 10, etc, etc.

Others will give valuable advice.

PCOS is Depressing.....!!!! HELP needed.....!!!

'மனிதாபிமானம்' by கிரிஷ்ணாம்மா :)

ஒரு சிறிய டவுனிலிருந்து மகன் வீட்டுக்கு வந்திருந்த சிவகாமி அம்மாளும் பக்கத்து வீடு பார்வதி அம்மாளும் பேசிக்கொண்டிருந்தனர். யாரோ ஒருவர் பேசக்கிடைத்தது சிவகாமிக்கு ரொம்ப சந்தோஷம்.

"இந்த வீடு பரவாஇல்லை, ஏதோ அக்கம் பக்கம் பேசுவதற்கு, ஏதோ அவசரம் ஆத்திரம் என்றால் ஒரு குரல் கூப்பிட வாகாக மனிதர்கள் இருக்கிறீர்கள், என் சின்ன பிள்ளை flat இல் இருக்கிறான். அங்கு பக்கத்து flat இல் இருப்பது யார் என்று கூட நமக்கு தெரியாது....தப்பித்தவறி யாரையாவது பார்த்தால் ஒரு சிரிப்பு ஒரு விசாரிப்பு கூட கிடையாது. சின்ன பசங்க கூட போன் ஐ கை இல் வைத்துக்கொண்டு, காதில் எதையோ மாட்டிக்கொண்டு தலையை ஆட்டிக்கொண்டு, தப்பித்தவறி கூட அடுத்தவர்கள் பேச்சு நம் காதில் விழவேண்டாம் என்பது போல தனியாகவே இருக்கிறார்களே ?....ஏன் இப்படி இருக்கிறார்கள் ? ..ஓடி ஆடி விளையாடும் சிறுவர்களை பார்ப்பதே அபூர்வமாய் இருக்கே ? "

"மகனும் மருமகளும் ஆபீஸ் போவதால், flat வாசலில் கிரில் கேட் வேறு. ...ஜெயில் மாதிரி...எப்பவும் பூட்டியே வைக்க சொல்வார்கள். 'யாராவது வந்தால் கிரில் கதவை திறக்காமலேயே பேசு, போஸ்ட் வந்தாலும் அந்த கதவின் இடுக்கு வழியே வாங்கு....பத்திரம் , பத்திரம்.....இது நீ இருக்கும் கிராமம் போல இல்லை ' என்று தினமும் ஒரு நூறு முறையாவது சொல்லிவிட்டுத்தான் கிளம்புவார்கள்......."

அவர்கள் சொல்வதும் வாஸ்தவம் தான், தினமும் பேப்பரில் தான் பார்க்கிறோமே, இங்கு கொள்ளை அங்கு கொலை என்று......மாலை ஆனால் பறவைகள் போல கூட்டில் அடைகிறார்கள்..............மறுபடியும் கம்ப்யூட்டர் , போன் , இல்லாவிட்டால் டிவி என்று .....இயந்திரம் போல, இயந்திரகளாகவே........ "

"ஹும்...நாம எதைத்தேடி ஓடறோம் என்றே இவர்களுக்கு புரிவதில்லை.........மனிதர்களுடன் பேசவே பேசாமல், எந்த மனித உறவுகளுமே இல்லாமல் இவர்கள் வெறும் மெஷின்களுடன் என்ன வாழ்க்கை வாழுகிறார்களோ ?.ஒண்ணும் பிடிபடலை எனக்கு "

"அங்கு இரண்டு நாளிலேயே எங்களுக்கு மூச்சு முட்டிவது போல ஆகிவிட்டது............"உங்களுக்கு எப்போ எங்களைப் பார்க்கணும் என்று தோன்றுகிறதோ அப்போ நம்ப வீட்டுக்கு வந்துடுங்கப்பா" என்று சொல்லி கிளம்பிவிட்டோம் நாங்கள் என்றாள்.

"அப்புறம் இவனும் மருமகளும் கூப்பிட்டதால் இங்கு வந்திருக்கோம், நீங்க எப்படி இங்கேயே இருகீங்க?" என்று சிரித்தபடி பார்வதி அம்மாவை பார்த்து கேட்டாள்.

அதற்கு பார்வதியும், "எனக்கும் முதலில் கொஞ்சம் கஷ்டமாகத்தான் இருந்தது, எனவே தான் அதுபோல இருக்கும் flat களிலிருந்து இது போல வீட்டுக்கு மாறி வந்து விட்டோம். இங்கு கொஞ்சம் பரவாஇல்லை, அக்கம் பக்கம் நீங்க சொல்வது போல பார்க்க பேசி பழக மனிதர்கள் உண்டு " என்றாள்.

" ம்... எங்க ஊரில் முன்பு போல வாசல் திண்ணைகள் இல்லையே தவிர, அக்கம் பக்கம் பேச, கொள்ள, ஒரு பண்டிகை பருவம் என்றால் நாம் சமைத்ததை அடுத்த வீடுகளுக்கு கொடுத்து அனுப்ப , என்று ஒரு நாலு பேராவது இருக்கிறார்கள். அத்தை, மாமா, அக்கா , அண்ணா என்று கூட இருப்பவர்களை முறை சொல்லி கூப்பிட்டு பழகுவோம்.........ஒரு தபால்காரர் வந்தால் கூட உட்காரவைத்து ரெண்டு வார்த்தை பேசி, ஒரு டம்ளர் மோர் கொடுத்து அனுப்புவோம்...... இங்க தவிச்ச வாய்க்கு தண்ணி தரவே யாருக்கும் நேரம் இல்லை...........

"அங்கே, யாருக்காவது ஒன்று என்றால் எல்லோரும் ஓடுவோம்... ஆனால் இங்கு, , அடுத்தவன் ரோட்டில் அடிபட்டு இருந்தால் கூட பார்த்துக்கொண்டே செல்பவர்கள் தானே அதிகமாய்ப் போனார்கள்...........அவங்களுக்கு உதவக்கூட ஆள் இல்லையே.....இதுக்கும் இப்போ எல்லோரும் கையில் போன் ஐ வைத்துக்கொண்டு திரிகிறார்கள்........கொஞ்சம் கூட மனிதாபிமானமே இல்லாமல் போச்சு இன்றைய மனிதர்களிடம்...............இப்படி இருந்தால் எப்படி நாடு விளங்கும்? எங்கிருந்து மழை வரும்..." என்று வருத்தத்துடன் அங்கலாய்த்தாள் சிவகாமி அம்மாள்.

பார்வதி அம்மாளுக்கு என்ன சொல்வது என்று தெரியலை. பிறகு " நீங்க சொல்வது வாஸ்த்தவம் தான், நாம் பார்த்துக்கொண்டு இருக்கும் போதே, கொஞ்சம் கொஞ்சமாய் உறவுகள் அவற்றின் நற்பண்புகள் எல்லாம் குறைந்து கொண்டே வருகிறது.... நம் உணவுகள், பண்புகள், கலாச்சாரம் எல்லாவற்றையும் இந்த மேற்கத்திய மோகம் என்கிற வெள்ளம் அடித்து சென்றுவிடும் போல இருக்கு.........எல்லோரும் பல்லக்கில் ஏற ஆசைப்படுவதன் விளைவு இது....தனக்கு தகுதி இருக்கோ இல்லியோ, ஒரேநாளில் பணக்கரனாகிடணும் , என்கிற எண்ணம் எல்லோருக்குமே வந்து விட்டது தான் காரணம் என்று நினைக்கிறேன்....." என்றாள்.

இவர்கள் இப்படி பேச ஆரம்பித்ததிலிருந்து சிவகாமி அம்மாளின் மருமகள் லக்ஷ்மி, வாசலில்

கீரைக்காரியுடன் பேரம் பேசிக்கொண்டிருந்தாள். ஒருவழியாக கீரை வாங்கிக்கொண்டு உள்ளே வந்தவளை

" அம்மா லக்ஷ்மி, அந்த கீரையை இப்படிக்கொடு, நான் ஆய்ந்து வைக்கிறேன்" என்றாள் சிவகாமி.

" வேண்டாம் ம்மா, நான் பார்த்துக்கறேன்" என்றாள் லக்ஷ்மி.

" பரவாஇல்லை சும்மாத்தானே இருக்கேன், கொடு இப்படி " என்றாள் மருமகளிடம்.

அவளும் கீரைக் கட்டுகளை இவர்களின் அருகில் கொண்டுவைத்துவிட்டு, பார்வதி அம்மாளை பார்த்து ,

" லதாவும், கேசவனும் ஆபீஸ் போயாச்சா ஆண்டி'? என்றாள்.

பார்வதியும் சிரித்தவாறே," ம்.. போயச்சுமா, உங்க மாமியாரை பார்த்தேன் அது தான், கதவை பூட்டிக்கொண்டு இங்கு வந்துட்டேன் " என்றாள்.

உடனே சிவகாமியும், " இங்க உறவு முறைகள் கூட ரெண்டு தான் 'ஆண்டி அங்கிள்'....என்னவோ போங்கோ, எதுவும் மனசுக்கு பிடிக்கலை".என்றபடி கீரையை ஆயத் துவங்கினாள். வாசலில் இன்னும் கீரைக்காரி காத்திருக்கவே,

" என்னமா, இன்னும் கீரைக்காரிக்கு பணம் கொடுக்கலையா, அவள் காத்திருக்காளே, எப்பவும் பர்சுடன் தானே காய் வாங்க போவாய் ? " என்றாள் சிவகாமி.

அதற்கு, " இல்லம்மா, அவளுக்கு ஜுரம் அடிப்பது போல இருக்காம், தலையை சுற்றுகிறதாம் , அது தான் ஒரு நாலு இட்லி சாப்பிட்டுவிட்டு, இந்த மாத்திரையை போட்டுக்கோ, இதுக்கும் கேட்காவிட்டால், காய் விற்று விட்டு வரும்போது, தெருக்கோடி டாக்டர் அங்கிள் , கிளினிக் முடிந்து வந்திருப்பார், அவரிடம் போ என்று சொன்னேன் . அது தான் காத்திருக்கா" என்று உள்ளிருந்து பதில் சொல்லியபடிய வந்த லக்ஷ்மி இன் கைகளில் நாலு இட்லி வைத்த தட்டும் குடிக்க ஒரு டம்ளர் தண்ணீரும் இருந்தது.

" இதோ கொடுத்து விட்டு வரேன் ம்மா" என்றபடி சென்றாள்.

இதைப்பார்த்த சிவகாமிக்கு மனம் நிறைந்தது, தான் பயந்த படி இன்னும் மனிதாபிமானம் பூரணமாய் சாகவில்லை என்கிற நினைப்பே மனதை மகிழ்ச்சிக்கு உள்ளாக்கியது. பார்வதியை பார்த்து சந்தோஷமாய் சிரித்தாள். என்றாலும், கீரைகாரியை அனுப்பிவிட்டு உள்ளே வந்த லக்ஷ்மி இடம்,

" என்னமா 4 கத்தை கீரைக்கு அத்தனை நேரம் போராடுன, பேரம் பேசின, 'பொசுக்குனு' நாலு இட்டிலி, சாம்பார், மாத்திரை என்று கொடுத்துட்டே" என்றாள்.

அதற்கு லக்ஷ்மி, " அது வியாபாரம் மா, இது மனிதாபிமானம், ரெண்டையும் குழப்பிக்க கூடாது " என்று

சொல்லிவிட்டு, ஆய்ந்த கீரைகளை உள்ளே கொண்டு சென்றாள் இயல்பாக.

சிவகாமியும் பார்வதியும் மன மகிழ்ச்சியாக சிரித்தனர். "இது போல சிலரால் தான் இன்னும் மழை பெய்கிறது" என்று பார்வதி சொன்னாள்.... சிவகாமியும் தன் மருமகளின் இயல்பான ஈகை குணத்தால் மனம் நிறைந்தாள்.

கிரிஷ்ணாம்மா

'மனிதாபிமானம்' by கிரிஷ்ணாம்மா :)

The GiveItUp Movement

http://ift.tt/1D6uPrE

Well-off people should voluntarily give up LPG subsidy: PM | The Economic Times Video | ET Now

Many questions after I checked these links and also NAMO's tweets on giving up LPG subsidy.

- Shouldn't he walk the talk with his MPs and other candidates?

- Why introduce the LPG subsidy if it should be given up by the well-off?

- Will this extend to other utilities?

- Are the so called 'well-off' really 'well-off'?

- Why is this applicable only for resident Indians?

- Should we have a law that defines the who is well-off and who should give up the subsidy instead of asking for volunteers?

- Is the money saved really reaching the poor for their present and future?

- Why are the super rich not targeted?

- What other options can we have instead of giving it up?

- Would you give it up or not?

Please post your thoughts.

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Please check my diet and exercise to see where I am going wrong or what I can tweak

I weigh 91 kgs and after 21 days of watching what I eat and exercising moderately, I am still the same weight. I have subclinical hypothyroidism and have always found it hard to drop kgs. I have been here before , but I aim too high or just give up after I see no change in me and then become a silent reader of this forum.

But this time I decided I will continue and forget about the scale for 3 months.

I am trying to see the number of days I worked out as a motivation, rather than worry about dropping of the weight. But that’s easier said then done.

So now after 21 days, I have typed down what I eat and what I exercise. Please tell me if you see any red flags that are hindering my weightloss and what I can change or tweak to make it more effective.

Some general things:

I drink more than 2 lts water everyday.

I use official measuring cups for measuring ( the kind you get to buy for making cakes)

I don’t take water with my meals but leave a 30 min break after the meal and 15 min break before the meal.

Stretch for 15 min after every workout video which I have not included in the list below.

I sleep for 2 .5 hours in the afternoon ( I know its bad, but that’s next in trying to change), and 7 hrs in the night

Diet -

Morning (7 am) – 1 glass hot water with lemon and honey, and I cup Triphala powder soaked water only for a week.

Breakfast (9 am)- 3 brown bread , 1 of which I put butter, 1 egg poach

Or

2 roti with omlette

Or

½ cup cornflakes (measuring cup)with ¼ cup home made yoghurt, salt and 1 small fist haldiram bhujia

Or

3 tablespoon oats made upma style with lots vegetables and water to make it soup consistency.

Plus

1cup black coffee without sugar

11am – I skip this most days. Sometimes half guava or half cucumber

Lunch (1 pm) – ½ cup cooked rice ( measuring cup), ½ cup dal, ½ sabzi (sometimes 2 sabzi or 1 sabzi with chicken gravy or 1 small fish piece)

Seven seas tab or vit c tab ( Limcee) after lunch

Evening (5 pm) – 1 cup green tea without sugar or during weekend milk tea with 1 teaspoon sugar

Any one of the next - 1 big katori masala muri with cucmber and onion / ½ cup chiwda(store bought)/ 2 thin arrowroot bicuit/ 2 methi swali (around 150 cal as per pack)

Dinner( 830 pm) – 1 cup dal with 2 table spoon sabzi with or without 1 roti depending on if I am hungry.( I used to have1 cup or more rice again before or 2 rotis)

Or

1 cup tomato soup with 1 spoon dalia added to it

I cup triphala powder soaked water before going to sleep

I have cheated on weekends with home made tehri or chicken yakhni pulao or store bought (1 tandoori roti, 1 piece tandoori chicken, 4 spoons chicken briyani and 2 piece chicken with gravy. TOTAL DAYS I CHEATED ARE 3 days IN 21 days.

Exercise

Week 1 - 2 days no exercise, 1 day 1 mile LS, 4 days 2 mile LS

Week2 - 1 day no exercise, 1 day 1 mile LS, 1 day 1 mile LS + 30 min yoga, 4 days 2 mile LS

Week3 - No day exercise missed, 1 day 1 mile LS, 1 day 2 mile LS, 3 days 3miles LS, 3 days 2 miles +10 min cardio infused standing abs

Please help me figure out what i can do better and roughly how much calorie this is. I tried to do it myself but i got confused.

I am thinking i need a 1500 cal diet , and with even LS 2 mile i burn 200 cal ( at around 200 lbs, i will burn roughly 100 cal per mile)

Thanks

Aditi

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samedi 28 mars 2015

Searching for Job

Hi all,

I am staying in Hannover, Germany for almost 5 years. I am currently searching for job here.

I completed my M.C.A in 2004(University 5th Rank Holder). I worked in a small concern for 6 months. Then I got married, moved to US, then my daughter was born and moved to Germany in 2009 . Now my daughter is old enough(7 yrs) and she is going to a full- time school.

Now I am searching for a job. It's almost 10 years gap and I am really feel so blank. I updated my Resume and applied for lot of jobs here. Somehow my resume got rejected, but I don't know the exact reason. To my thought, I am thinking because of no experience.

So please ladies, help me in updating myself and help me in searching for a Job.

Note :- I did my German B1 Certification

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வா வா வசந்தமே!

அப்பாடா! ஒரு வழியா வசந்த காலம் ஆஜர். கடந்த ஆறு மாசமா வெளியே வராதான்னு ஊர்ல எல்லாரும் ஏக்கமா எட்டி பாத்துகிட்டு இருந்த சூரியன் இப்போ தான் மனமிரங்கி பரம விசிறிகளான எங்களுக்கு காட்சி தர முன் வந்திருக்கான். வாழ்க்கை சூடு பிடிக்க ஆரம்பிக்கற நேரம் இது.

நாலு மாசமா அலட்சியப்படுத்தினதில் தெருவுல எல்லார் வீட்டு தோட்டமும் எங்க வீட்டு தோட்டத்தோட போட்டி போட்டுக்கிட்டு 'நீ மோசமா, நான் மோசமா'ன்னு பல்லிளிச்சது போன வாரம் வரைக்கும் தான். நேத்து காலையில் எதேச்சையா ஜன்னல் வழியா எட்டிப்பார்த்தா என்ன ஒரு ஆச்சர்யம்! ஹாரி பாட்டர் மந்திரக்கோல் ஆட்டி 'ஜீபூம்பா' ன்னு சொன்னா மாதிரி எங்க வீட்டை தவிர எல்லார் வீட்டு வாசலிலும் வண்ண பூச்செடிங்க அழகழகா பூத்து என்னைய பார்த்து 'உனக்கும் பெப்பே உங்கப்பனுக்கும் பெப்பே' ன்னு அழகு காட்டுது. எங்க வீட்டு கிட்டே வரும் போது மந்திரக்கோலுக்கு சார்ஜ் போயிருக்குமோ? Stock market shares வாங்கி போடற எண்ணம் இருக்குறவங்களுக்கு இது நல்ல தருணம். Lowes மற்றும் Home Depot கம்பனிங்க பூச்செடி வித்தே Wallstreet ட்டை வலுவாக்கராங்கன்னு கேள்விப்பட்டேன்.

வயசில் சின்னவங்க, பெரியவங்கன்னு வித்யாசம் பாராட்டாம எல்லோர் முட்டியையும் ஒரே மாதிரி பதம் பார்த்துகிட்டு இருந்த குளிர் காலத்தை அடிச்சு விரட்டிட்டு ஒயிலா வசந்த காலம் எட்டிப் பார்க்கும் போது இந்த மாதிரி உற்சாகமா பூந்தோட்டமோ இல்லை காய்கறித் தோட்டமோ மக்கள் போடறது நாம எல்லாரும் நடைமுறைல பாக்கற ஒரு விஷயம் தான்.

ஆனா எங்க ஊர் மக்கள் வசந்தம் வந்ததும் தோட்ட வேலையை விட உற்சாகமா இன்னொரு விஷயம் செய்வாங்க. அது தான் உடல்பயிற்சி. சூரியன் சாயல்ல வட்டமா ஒரு பெரிய ஸ்டிக்கர் பொட்டை பார்த்தா கூட போதும், ஏதோ பூச்சாண்டி குச்சி எடுத்துகிட்டு துரத்தரா மாதிரி தெருவில் இறங்கி ஓட ஆரம்பிச்சிடுவாங்க. விடிகார்த்தால காப்பி டீ கூட குடிக்காம ஜட்டியை விட கொஞ்சம் பெருசா ஒரு நிஜார் மாட்டிகிட்டு தலை தெறிக்க ஓடற சில மக்களை நிறுத்தி விசாரிச்சதுல இதுக்கு ரெண்டு முக்கிய காரணங்கள் இருக்குன்னு தெரிஞ்சுகிட்டேன். ஒண்ணு புத்துணர்ச்சி. மற்றது உடல் எடை குறைப்பு.

இவங்க ஓட்டமா ஓடி கொட்டற வியர்வையை ட்யூப் போட்டு பக்கெட்டில் பிடிச்சா நாலு ரோஜா பூ செடிக்கு ஒரு வாரம் தண்ணி விடலாம். இதுல எங்கேர்ந்து புத்துணர்வு வரும்னு எனக்கு புரியலை. ஹமாம் சோப்பு விளம்பர அறிவுரையை கடைபிடிச்சா தானா புத்துணர்வு வந்திட்டு போறது. இதுக்கு போய் தலை தெறிக்க ஒடுவானேன்? எங்க குடும்பத்தில் புத்துணர்ச்சி பெற நாங்க நம்பகமான ஒரு formula கண்டு பிடிச்சு வச்சிருக்கோம். ஒரு கப் பில்டர் காப்பி + ஒரு தட்டு 'ஜானகி' பிராண்ட் தேன்குழல் = புத்துணர்ச்சி. இதை patent பண்ணலாமான்னு கூட ஒரு யோசனை இருக்கு. பார்ப்போம். God is great.

உடல் எடை குறைப்பை பத்தி அதிகம் எதுவும் சொல்ல எனக்கு விருப்பம் இல்லைங்க ஏன்னா அது ஒரு சோக கதை. சரி அதை விட்டு தள்ளுவோம்.

வசந்த காலம் வந்தாலே பொதுவா எல்லா வீட்டுத் தலைவிகளுக்கும் ஒரு வினோதமான உந்துதல் வரும். பத்து வருஷ coma விலேர்ந்து திடீர்னு கண்ணை திறந்து 'அடடா இப்படி குப்பைத்தொட்டிக்குள்ள போய் வாழரோமே' ன்னு உணர்ந்தவங்க மாதிரி வசந்த காலம் வந்து பளிச்சினு வெய்யில் அடிச்ச உடனே வீட்டை சுத்தம் செய்யறதில் இறங்கிடுவாங்க. சுத்தம் பண்ணறேன்னு சொல்லி வீட்டில் உள்ள எல்லா அலமாரி சாமான்களையும் இழுத்து வெளியே போடறது இந்த சீசனுக்கே உண்டான ஒரு விசேஷம்.

அது மட்டும் இல்லை. வீட்டுத் தலைவிகளோட தானதர்ம உணர்வுகள் தலை தூக்கி நிற்கற நேரம் வசந்த காலம் தான். கணவர், குழந்தைகளோட உடம்பில் போட்டிருக்கிற துணிகளை மட்டும் விட்டு வச்சிட்டு மிச்ச எல்லாத்தையும் மூட்டை கட்டி 'salvation army' இல்லைனா 'goodwill' கடைங்களுக்கு தானம் செஞ்சுடுவாங்க. ரெண்டு வாரம் முன்னாடி வாங்கின புத்தம் புது துணிமணி எல்லாம் கூட இந்த மூட்டைக்குள்ள தான் இருக்கும். எல்லாத்தையும் எடுத்து தானம் பண்ணிட்டு Macy's கடைல spring sale ன்னு அடுத்த வருஷம் தானம் பண்ண வேண்டிய துணி மணி மற்றும் இதர சாமான்களை வாங்கரதுல பிசியாயிடுவாங்க. எனக்கு எப்படித் தெரியும்ன்னு கேக்கறீங்களா? நேத்து தான் நான் பத்து மூட்டை சாமான்களை தானம் செஞ்சேன். என் கணவரோட சட்டை வைக்கும் அலமாரி நான் துடைச்ச துடைப்பில வைரம் மாதிரி மின்னரதுன்னா பாருங்களேன்! கொடை வள்ளல் கர்ணனோட தங்கச்சின்னு என் கணவர் (பெருமையா ???) சொன்னது என் காதுல நல்லாவே விழுந்தது.

Kohl's கடைலேர்ந்து 20% off வசந்த கால தள்ளுபடி கூபான் இன்னிக்கு தான் வந்திருக்கு. இதுவே நவராத்திரி காலமா இருந்ததுன்னா குங்குமச்சிமிழ் எடுத்துகிட்டு கொலுவுக்கு கூப்பிட Kohl's கடைக்கு போயிடுவேன். ஏன்னா நம்ம மக்கள் எல்லாம் கூபான் பிடிச்சிகிட்டு அங்கே தானே இப்போ இருப்பாங்க?

வா வா வசந்தமே!

everything is my mistake at the end of the day and he abandons me

But on the way when i was holding his hand out of love, he started complaining that I am crumpling his ironed shirt...I got angry...i felt so stabbed straight at my heart..i felt he was giving more importance to the dress rather than my intention of holding his hands....

we reached the venue and all girls had dressed up very nice..it dint really matter me..utill one girl asked my husband dint you take her to shopping?...During that time all the emotions came out and just cried..I agree I should not have cried and suppose to be a baby shower..i was there to bless them...

Your husband made you cry. Your emotions got built up and it was burst out. It was not your fault at all.

Once you got out of the party, you should have stayed out. If he wouldn't take you home, you should have found another way home, or waited outside.

If I was you I would find a way out of this marriage.

My ex purposely started fights. When he would fight in public like this I would think, ok, maybe God will make him die and I will get another husband who is very nice. Luckily, my ex is my ex now.

In the meantime just ignore him, and find things and activities you enjoy. Don't hug him, don't get intimate with him, just have your own things and activities.

When I started to do this in my marriage, God was kind enough to make my nightmare marriage crumble.

And, always talk to God out-loud, under your breath. Thank God for showering you with blessing, Thank God for bringing you and the man-of-your-dreams in Holy Matrimony.

Thoughts and Words have power. If you are unable to control negative thoughts, at least make sure Sweet Words come out of your mouth.

everything is my mistake at the end of the day and he abandons me

Identity...

Identity...

Entities crave for it

Individuals crave for it

Only very few brave for it

Rest are just too naive at it

But should never grieve for it

Learn to move on and cleave it

Instincts are the ones believe it

Keep doing as you would perceive it

Soon a few would come along and receive it

Every action may not really have an equal and opposite reaction...

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What is British Humor?

Ok, I thought Mr. Bean was British Humor, but apparently, it's something different.

And then I thought "Goodness Gracious Me", is British Humor, but it's more so of British Indians making parodies that poke fun at every day life of being British Indian, dealing with parents, in-laws, matchmaking, etc, etc.

Some time back one of my co-workers was watching a skit where an male owner of a salon was dressed like a lady from the olden era, i.e pink hoop skirt, and keeps saying "I'm a lady, I'm a lady"

Then a young man comes into the salon, looks perplexed, gets a make-over to be a lady, then grabs his puffy chests and hops into the streets saying, "I'm a lady, I'm a lady".

My co-workers thought this was downright hilarious and were laughing for a good 5 minutes.

Can you tell me what is British Humor, how to appreciate it, etc, etc?

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i am loosing patience with my toddler. pls help me

Distraction is the key at this stage.

Don't say he can't see his rhymes. Ask him to see the dog, crow, car or whatever it is that you can find near your home. Show the moon just say the phone has low battery, no internet etc and so it can't work.

For chewing, just remind him often. May be he didn't like the food. Is he the same for all foods?

i am loosing patience with my toddler. pls help me

Struggling for kg1 admission 2015-2016

Hello friends,
I am new to this forum and just shifted to doha. I am really struggling for my 3 yr old son to get into kg1..all schools have closed down the admission.

Can somebody please guide me on mid term admission. I do not want my kid to lose a year....

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Celebrating Community Central Forums - IL 10th Anniversary - Day 10/10

Let's celebrate our Community Central Forum, the most fitting way to wrap our 10 Day Anniversary Celebrations in Indusladies.

As the name suggests, Community Central is the Center point of Indusladies. It is where our new members interact first and then go on to build many awesome friendships that extends beyond Indusladies too. Here is where our community comes together to wish one another on their birthdays, pray for an other member, plan meetups etc.

There have been many valuable suggestions and ideas that have been shared here that have been successfully implemented. We thank all our members who have taken their time to offer their suggestions and valuable time in the development of this community.

And our monthly contests and giveaways are successful owing to the encouraging participation from our members.

Is there a post or a member that has made an impact for you. Please share the link and your thoughts too.

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Celebrating Community Central Forums - IL 10th Anniversary - Day 10/10

vendredi 27 mars 2015

some designs i have collected from IL ... hope it wl be helpful to all newcomers ...

Are walking and yoga the only options for slow exercise ?

Hi friends,

I have tried all kinds of workouts in the past and enjoyed it. I lost weight with my own diet modifications and portion controls and maintain now almost well. I feel with age Im not able to do more of cardio now esp like zumba or dance workout because I have the body pain next day. Some friends say only walking and yoga should be done and that will be enough. I enjoy fast dance and music so much that walking by myself alone even with the best music on or too calm yoga is not helping me and im not having fun, but the good part is Im able to maintain weight by this.

Please give me some other ideas.

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Letrosol and no of cycles

Dear ILs,

Hope u remember me. I am 34 yes old inttc for 2-3 yrs, with one left tubal block ( DH count OK but motility low he is taking Oligoforte 2 months). To day is my CD 2 ( last 2 cycles with letrasol 2.5 mg). Due to family functions ( kuladevatha pooja after years) postponing laparoscopy to next month.

Here I need ur suggestions that is it safe to take letrasol (2.5mg from CD 3 to CD 7). How much cycle we can use it? Up to December 2014 I was not taking any medications ( like clomid or letrasol) but got spotting frfrom CD 18 till the period. But after taking letrasol spotting and painful periods are not observed.

Plz pour your thoughts on letrasol ( doc not suggested any clomid she started straight with letrasol).

Thanks in advance

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Wife have money problem

Hello,

I know this is ladies forums, but I guess you can help me understand girls view.

Got married year and half back. Stayed 1 yr away because of immigration and now living together since last 6 months. I and my wife both are having professional job and earning decent in US. But my wife refuse to pay for anything. When she was in India and having professional job there too, she did not spend on anything. I had to send all her expenses. I thought she is new in the house, new to environment so let her do what she wants. She will understand as time goes by. Now she is in US for 6 months and earning fine she still wants I should pay for everything and pay for her expenses/shopping as I am the husband. She does not spend a penny from her pay. Whenever I say anything about money, she asks I should ask from my parents as inheritance as they come and stay with me for a 8-10 months and stay with my brother in India for 8-10 months. My parents earn very little here. She wants that my parents should share expenses. When she started her job here, she had a big fight to have a separate account. I don't wish/intend that she gives all her money, but she is not ready for anything. Last week we had big fight where I said pay 25% of your pay and keep 75% for yourself, but she did not agree. She wants to go for vacations, have a flat in India, go out every weekend, but I should pay for all.

I was ready that if she pays 25% of her pay, I will take care of everything as it is right now and as she is expecting.

Is it fine/normal to expect that wife should pay for SOME things when she is earning? In this situation, is my wife point correct that I should take money from my parents and not her? At this age, I should be taking care of my parents and not asking money from them. I am ready to take care of my in-laws too. I give them same respect as mine. I buy all the gifts for them and I don't keep any partiality with them. Since she does not share financial responsibilities, I stopped helping her in cooking/cleaning after big fight. She intends to have a maid if we are in India as that is for her convenience and she will pay for it. But not pay for anything else.

Just looking for some logical answer to this.

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which is your favorite Jillian Michael's exercise video?

Hi All,
I have done 30 day Shred earlier but this time I want to do a different workout.

Could you all lovely ladies let me know which other JM workout video have you tried? Also which one is most effective.

Thanks in Advance

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just a vent and need some suggestion..

hello lovely ladies... time has come to take advises from you all as I am little concerned and want to avoid unnecessary arguments..

some background

I am almost 3 year married women .. it was a love marriage... I stayed with in laws back in India before coming here for more than 2 months right after wedding and i get to know their different shades.. before wedding they seems to be very liberal and open minded and my relation with them were very nice. DH has one younger brother who is doctor but not working as he was preparing for his further study in medicine from usa at that time.. FIL stop working since 8-9 yrs.MIL is a home maker.so basically DH was only earner in the family. they have no good house to live so DH bought a house. when he went India for engagement in 2011 he stuck there for visa issues and both the families decides to arrange wedding. by that time everything was fine... due to the money problem I told them not to buy gold for me.. I bought very cheap lehanga n sarees for my self just to save money.. DH bought very less for him but his family seems they dont care about anything... they were not thinking at all if he never got visa then what.. MIL bought jewellery for her, FIl bought car.. BIL bought many suits.. and they planned wedding so lavishly just to show their relatives .. they started loosing respect in my life and DH had nothing in his hand except the loans from friends, luckily his visa issue resolved 10days prior to wedding if not, dont know where we will be. money I got from my family for furniture they bought theirs as well... infect they bought me very sub standard things.. money which i got as a gift from my side people FIL took that as well.. if i give something to MIL just to keep she just forget to return.. if I want to give something to my cousin BIL, BIL have always eye on it and even in front of them he restrict me to do so. instead of giving reception party from their side they invite 800 people in the wedding party which my parents were sponsoring .. MIL keeps asking my parents for sending money for sweets which she had to give in her relatives saying it should be from DIL's side but she always took money and never gave sweets to her relatives.. there are so many such incidents. basically these are people who revolve around money. DH never gave me their correct information infect he always tried to mingle things up.. he always try to justify things.without a major fight he can not accept flows of his family. when i came to usa , BIL came with me to prepare for his medical study and giving exams and interviews.. he is the most selfish and self centered guy.. in his first attempt he stuck in his interview ,he stayed with us for 1 and half year and sometimes he behaves like by studying further he actually giving favor to us. we left with no money till he was here.. prepaying for exams .. traveling for interviews and above all these things MIL, FIL and relative were forcing us for baby... when I came here I used to call ILS every 4-5 days.. and relative every 20-25 days.. on each call everybody asking for good news... I was just fade up of replying them sweetly and telling them that we are not ready because of the expenses.. DH have to run 2 houses. one is here one in India, home loan and above all BIL's study which is draining all the money.I stop frequently calling them.. make it one week then 10 days then 15 days ... stopped calling relative except occasions.. FIL gave me lectures about having a baby and he was shouting for 1/2 hr continuously and that was my limit... I stopped calling that frequently again and I started avoiding him. when I was in India MIL make me do everything at the name of her MIL that is Grandmaa.. like I used to wear saree all the time at home... she said Maa wont feel good if you wear anything else.. I didnt mind much as I thought she is genuinely saying that and even I wont be living my entire life there. After a while I realized that she always make me do all the thing at the name of other people particularly grandmaa.. being an honest and straight forward person i didnt like her idea. she is a kind of person who always accusing somebody for something... always barking about her sils..their kids and everybody around her even in one incident she justified one of her SIL's physical abuse by her husband.. how could one woman think like that even for her worst enemy.. she used to indirectly threatened me by saying I am good for people who behaves well with me and worst for people who behaves bad with me.. she told DH to tell me not to lock my closet and give her keys just before few hrs I had to left .. which make a huge drama... she made me wash my plate at her sil's house just because i was in periods.. her sister back bite about me to DH that I misbehaved with FIL.. I really got hurt as I really had very good relation with her. anyways I keep quite and came here although slowly these people getting off from my life... I was just maintaining a relation as a DIL. one day MIL called and made me to talk to her neighbor .. she asked me about baby and all without saying hi- hello .. started suggesting ideas... that was the limit.. i told her harshly that you are interfering in my life.. she gave back phone to MIL and she started again... giving me some totka for baby.. I shouted at her saying thats why I am avoiding you people .. you dont understand your line,I had so much buildup accumulating within me, it just overflown. the funny part is that by that time we did nt even tried for a baby and she is giving me a totka... a graduate and a not so old lady( 50 yrs) giving a totka.. further I got to know from my friends that totka is for a baby boy.. incredible.. DH who always justified for his family this time he does nt have anything to justify.I can not stand her .. whenever I have to talk to her my 2-3 days goes in depression.. i wake up thinking about her..

Now I am planning to visit India during which i will be visiting in laws place for 10 days .. i am confused about how to avoid arguments.. as FIL is always at home he is the most irritating person of all.. MIL is always barking about somebody.. i am going there just to spend some time with grandmaa but dont want to take headaches. even MIL and FIL never asked once in 2 and half yrs to come though BIL visiting them 4th time soon( 3 time on DH's expences). I am sure she will insisted me to visit her sister who bitching about me.. I dont want to see her. plz suggest me some strategies ladies.

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just a vent and need some suggestion..

Dashavatars of Mahavishnu

There is a grand celebration of Rama navami in Ayodhya mandapam , West mambalam chennai, just a few hundred metres away from home.Accidentally I met my senior in college. We were meeting after 55 years.She was in her traditional vaishnavite madisar dress.Now she is the grandma of 8 grandchildren and soon getting promoted as great grandma.

She came home. We had a heartful chat of good old days in Srirangam.The main talk related to the group discussion we had about dasavathar.She used to argue that Darwin took guidance only from Dasavathar to formulate his Theory of Evolution.

Theory of Evolution is the widely held notion that all life is related and has descended from a common ancestor: the birds and the bananas, the fishes and the flowers -- all related. Darwin's general theory presumes the development of life from non-life and stresses a purely naturalistic (undirected) "descent with modification". That is, complex creatures evolve from more simplistic ancestors naturally over time. In a nutshell, as random genetic mutations occur within an organism's genetic code, the beneficial mutations are preserved because they aid survival -- a process known as "natural selection." These beneficial mutations are passed on to the next generation. Over time, beneficial mutations accumulate and the result is an entirely different organism (not just a variation of the original, but an entirely different creature).

Religion, Avatars etc depend essentially on 'Faith' and Darwins Theory of Evolution is based on his actual observations. ( pratyaksham)though scientific theories also first originate from hypotheses, later on get so many transformations based on future scientists..

In Shrimat Bhagavatham a reference is made to 24 Avatars, of which sage Narada, Vyasa are also included.

However taking the ten main Avatars, it is argued that the avataras typically represent the ascent from acquatic creatures to amphibions to mammals leading to semi animal-man ( Narasimha ) Avatar, ( Matsya,koorma, varaha and Narasimha)then to a dwarf human avatar ( Vaman), a jungle dweller, terrific uncontrollable Parasurama to the more civilized Shri Rama and Krishna,Rama being perfect prepared to sacrifice family for protecting Raja Dharma and Krishna being more wise, clever indulging in activities which he considered Dharmic witha motive to win.Looks alright evoutionally?

Somehow the cycle has to end,that is with Kalki Avatar.

True, there are are subtle similarities to suggest Theory of Evolution.But there is a lot of difference between Darwin's Scientific Theory of Evolution and traditional thoughts on Dashavataram.

As per theory of Evolution, there have been only fish, all acquatic creatures and nothing else. In the second stage of evolution there were another set of creatures with some advanced features to prove evolutionary process. We have never come across a human being living at the time with dianossures.

In Matsyavatar we have read that a human king named Satyavrata gave a place to the fish in his palace.That fish grew bigger and bigger to the size of the ocean.

In kurmavatar also we see lot of Devas and asuras while the milk ocean was churned.

Matsya Avatar is reported to have occurred in some part of India, and amrita kalasam came from some non human realm,that is milky ocean.

Coming to Varaha Avatar ,it is very strange.That could not have happened in this earth, since Varaha avatar itself was intended to lift the earth which was submerged into ocean.

Even as per Bagavatha Puranam, Matsya does not seem to be the first Avatar. Other species had been there and just to save the seeds of all those species, Vishnu took the form of fish.

As per theory of Evolution, the previous species lacked certain features and the later species have developed over them, more refined. But all of Vishnu Avatars are great in their own way. In no way matsya Avatar is less significant or inferior to Kurma, and Narasimha is better evolved than varaha.

Ramaavatar cannot be isolated without monkeys and Rakshasas.

Krishna Avatar cannot be considered superior to Rama Avatar.The choice of which Avatar to take, rests with Almighty who is Omni potent, omnopresent and omniscient.

These 10 Avatars alone have formed a set so that even the less elite could understand and appreciate the Avatara mahimas and not with a view to support the theory of Avatar-Evolution phenomenon, which is of very recent origin.

By going through all the stories connected with all the Avatars we can certainly say that it is not animal exclusive slowly evolved into human order. We find elite sages, rishis, devas, asuras in almost all the avatars making their simultaneous presence.

The age of the Universe as supported by science seems to be different from what is stated in scriptures.

So we cannot set aside the theories of the great scientist Darwin based on so much of environmental studies and can't come to a conclusion that whatever Darwin has stated has already found a place in our scriptures.

The simple fish-tortoise-varaha-narasimha leading to Krishna alone does not seem to support the view.

I think we can analyse Darwin's Theory of Evolution separately and appreciate the scientific facts which are very much interesting.We can admire Dasavatars separately as part of our scriptures which form the basis of our Hindu culture and traditional values.,in stead of arguing that the Theory of Evolution itself had a base in our epics.

While we were concluding the topic and turned to kushala prasnam, her grandson,aged 25 ,asked me, "Mami, how can Ramavatar be earlier to Krishna Avatar, based on Evolution,since only cows were early animals and horses came later. Krishna was a cowherd boy tending cows while we learn of Rama of using horses which evolved very late."

I could not answer him at all in a scientific way.

But when he asked if we include, Parasurama, Balarama and Buddha as avatars we have to omit an important Avatar. He said with conviction, we may perhaps omit Krishna as an Avatar as he is the essence of all the Avatars. Perhaps he had Jayadeva's Ashtapadi in his mind, in which jayadeva includes all but Krishna.The discussion I had with this American citizen was simply absorbing.

But I could convince him that there were two Buddhas, one of 1800 B. C. E. who is considered an Avatar of Vishnu.The other Buddha, or Siddharta, about whom we read in history books belongs to a much later period by whom Ashoka was much influenced,--is not an Avatar of Mahavishnu.( But English historians had a great difficulty in reconizing the earler Buddha, I told.)

We were so much absorbed about these discussions during college days, our Sanskrit classes conducted in a thatched shed literally enjoying the fragrance of mud,( mann vasanai) when the first rain drops fell on muddy floor, while we studied about Megha sandesham of kalidasa. How nice it was! My friend was the daughter of a famous kathakalakshepam exponent and she was well versed in topics about epics, puranas and the like.

I go to bed with all these discussions in mind when are to celebrate Rama navami tomorrow. May Lord Rama bless everyone.

Jayasala 42

Dashavatars of Mahavishnu

Where does this ends?

I always believed that marriage is sacred and our spouses are chosen by god. I always told myself that my bad days and marital problems will somehow go away. I thought all my miseries and heartaches are temporary. Today, I came to a breaking point.

I have done enough but people expect more and more of me. I feel like carcass waiting to be eaten by vultures. Everyone wants a piece of me.

I had a rough day. Bad day at work and usual financial problem. Sleepless night, baggy eyes and not forgetting dark circles around my eyes. I am in my mid thirties but I look years older. I've known little peace and happiness from the day I was married. I always told myself, whatever problems that I face shall pass and I am strong and can overcome anything. But everyone has their weak point....

My MIL came with my husbands SIL. She demanded an answer for delaying her monthly allowance. The came uninvited and with intention to fight. I was a little disturbed with my other gazillion issues when they came. Looked like a WWF tag team. I was alone and defenceless as I know my DH would never back up me. As I was going through some hard times, something took over me and I almost became possessed. I screamed at them for demanding money when I was having so much trouble saving my DH from his debts. One thing led to another....my MIL, SIL and I exchanged some nasty words. I was a topper, I was possessed , remember?. They were shocked as I they have never seen me loose my temper. I chased them away from my house and slammed the door on their face. DH's SIL shouted outside my house. My neighbours heard everything and one particular neighbour loves such quarrels and I am sure she called all the other neighbours and shared the news.

When I came to my senses, I realised that I went down to their level and behaved cheaply! My parents didnt raise me that way. I was struct with guilt! I begin to ask myself, do I deserve to be treated in such way after all I have done? Where does this ends? My DH with his never ending debt saga, my money minded MIL will never get satisfied and now she has a partner. Where do I stand?. I tried to end my life many times but backed off thinking about my son. Now I am thinking very hard, pain and suffering is all I have known. I am tired , very tired of hoping for the impossible. Maybe I should take some rest.

I felt like sharing. I can only do that in IL.

Peace.....why does that word sound so strange to me?

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Where does this ends?