I suggest that you prepare a short speech and practice it in front of the mirror so that you can deliver it with the correct body language and facial expressions. You need to look neutral, firm and polite while you say it. Read up about communicating dissent and conflict resolution online.
Do not address problems of the past. Just say (with eye contact) that you want to say something to him, please can he just listen and think about it. Tell him that you want the two of you to solve problems better instead of childishly being passive aggressive; you think it is especially important for the two of you to do this now since your little girl is rapidly growing up and it is imperative that you both set a good example for her.
Then tell him that you would like him to think about it; perhaps read about better conflict resolution techniques you could both apply to effectively solve issues and bring harmony to the house. Tell him you are doing some research. Tell him that you really would like to make your marriage stronger and your home better for your family. Then leave him be while you are being normal. Remain strong.
next time you think something is going to flare up, without getting into a discussion or argument, neutrally say "I think we need to cool down and think about it." Move away and remain normal about other things. Use a different mode of communication - say email, so that you can think about what you want to say and use the right words to say it.
Good luck
silent treatment
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