Need a male perspective - Ex Lover appears

Is he having a bad marriage and rubbing this on his wife's face ?

Why does he want me to say hello to his wife ?

Why is he being like this, no woman wants to hear about the girl his husband madly loved. Seriously I don't understand his mind, please enlighten me ..

Maybe he is trying to rub in your face - look you left me, but I found such a beautiful, sweet wife, who I have two lovely kids with.

Do not keep it a secret from your husband. Tell him you met him, and exchanged phone numbers. Say you do not want to meet and find his request strange. Say you will decline to meet them, as it would be awkward for both you and his wife. Unless your husband is conservative or controlling, he should know this. Hiding things can cause unnecessary misunderstandings later.

As for meeting his wife, there is no reason to do this. Clearly you are not comfortable with it. Offer a polite and short apology, and refuse.

Is there a reason you want to be in touch with him? If it is only because of past relationship, don't bother. It has been 15 years, let him go. Avoid any situation that can be uncomfortable to all.

Need a male perspective - Ex Lover appears