Dear friends,

I am a very traditional and conservative person and unfortunately I find it difficult to be in my marriage. I believe marriage requires compromise but in my marriage I got abused for silly issues. Plus I don't think my husband or his parents will take responsibility and agree their mistakes. And I don't have energy for all the dramas that will happen. I don't understand why men have to control their wives and treat women badly. My psychiatrist told me that indian culture allows it. But I never saw DV in my parents relationship or extended family. But mine was the worst and I really don't know why I put up with this. I have made up my mind and am stubborn to stay single for the rest of my life. I don't want even a relationship. I have taken a spiritual path and looking to find happiness in myself through yoga, mediatation and practicing mindfulness. am planning to letting things go and am working on improving my confidence and self esteem. I know unless my husband or in laws don't seek therapy or agree to their mistakes , they are going to suffer for the rest of their lives. Hope they don't make another girl's life hell. My husband's expectation of a wife was to be like a robot and not question him. He will create unnecessary issues in his family and I will get a blame. I wonder how my inlaws brought a person like this? Plus all his family members started advising me that I should know how to tackle him and all that- when these people cannot bring him up properly- they expect the DIL to handle him. I don't understand this stupid concept.

A child's formative years will mould him and if parents cannot bring a single son properly and spoilt him by pampering him for wrong reasons and they expect a DIL to put up with his abuses. And the reason they give is "he is my only son and he is precious". So we girls are not precious to our parents and we should put up with all the nonsense they speak, but they will get upset if we speak back.

How self centered they are?

I don't want a marriage or any relationship anymore and I hate the attitude of people illtreating or discriminating Newcomers in the family. I am happy with my parents. I rather concentrate on my profession and am sure I will be content being single. I need to live my life peacefully rather than being sucked in to these dramas. Plz wish me well ILS.


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