She is Depressed!

Probably I am making a big deal out of nothing but I need to vent.

I cannot understand that if my mother and best friend actually thought that I were depressed, why they never asked me how I was? I feel like I am being gaslighted. Am I really 'depressed'? I cannot help but thinking that everything is my fault as I am the common denominator here.

Old people have their way of dealing with stress and old age's insecurities and their worries when a child has no job. Your mom's way of coping has unfortunately meant being mean to you. It would be tough to analyze why she behaves like she did. It might not even be worth the effort.

Your friend - it happens. When people go through a string of bad lucks, it tells on their friendships.

You only need to realize that you are not a common denominator. If you had a successful career, did you not have some money saved for unemployed times? How hard is it for you to now find "any" job? Do you have to live with your parents? Find a job. Move out. Be there for your parents from a distance.

She is Depressed!