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My friend is a single child of their parents though her parents were of middle class they never said 'no' to her. She did her engineering couldn't get a high paying job but she joined a private bank and was working there as officer at the time of her marriage.
She got married into a rich family and was living her PILs, Bil- CO sister. After few months of marriage some or other issues crepped in saying co-sis is being respected more for being a doctor DIL etc. Around this time she left the job as it was stressing her. Her husband spoke to me on a particular job opening, I helped her but she didn't clear the interview.
Meantime she got another job, paywise not at all great but since it's something in IT sector she accepted. During that time due to some issue with her husband she attempted suicide. Her husband informed parents and admitted her to hospital. After hospital her husband asked her to goto her parents home. He kept visiting her in weekends but even after six months he didn't take her home. She went to her martial home but her husband brought her to parents house within two days.
Inbetween he said he has to goto Pune for couple of months.During that time he had very limited telephonic conversation. One week the conversations stopped suddenly, his/in-laws numbers were not reachable, house locked. Out of a blue divorce notice got served to my friend: He has mentioned in the notice that she has borderline disorder as she had attempted suicide.
My friend was not ready for divorce. Talk through mutual lawyers failed and my friend filed a case in all womens police station saying inlaws don't allow me to stay with my husband. (According to my friend inlaws didn't like her as she brought less gold, earning less etc. During the initial days of their marriage her husband had even asked me how I'm earning more where in my friend is earning less though in same college etc.)
After police and lawyers intervention he agreed to stay with her in a separate family but no visits from either parents are allowed. They are living together for last ten months but the following problems are there:
1)My friend earns x and he earns 4x but he never shares any expenses. Family is run by my friend. They don't have any stuff like TV/Fridge etc. Husband keeps asking her to buy things where she couldn't afford
2)He is constantly critising her for being in such low earning job. He discourages her a lot after every interview failure and each/every damn thing.
3)Her 40 soverigns jewellery, Diamond earrings, Passport, license everything are with inlaws. Her husband keep saying he will give it to her later.
4)He doesn't care for her safety or when she is sick. He comes home at night and spends majority of remaining time and weekend with his parents.
Talks with him has failed. I have a feeling that he was forced to live with her after lawyers and police intervention and has no intention of living with her.
What should she do now?
What should I advise her?
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