I had always come running to IL whenever I needed suggestions and to vent many a times. Today thought of sharing something good that happened to me
I was with my H's place for this Christmas vacations last week. I was actually prepared for the worst when I landed there. With my arrogant MIL, manipulative SIL and timid H on one side and high intensity tensions building up on both sides I had no other go but to stay strong no matter what. I kept reassuring myself a zillion times that I shouldn’t cry or let them abuse me at any cost. But this visit turned out to be a shocker in the right sense!
My SIL is a great manipulator but this time she was fair enough. She saw to that her mom was cordial to the DIL and never made me feel lonely. Surprisingly my MIL had cooked for me the day I arrived and did welcome me. SIL made things so easy for me just like a good friend. We talked a lot and that was how I came to know about their point of views as well. Though my MIL was completely wrong, I started empathizing her. MIL started treating me fairly seeing the good bond I shared with her children. . Slowly as days moved on she started talking to me though I never talked more than necessary. MIL never expected me for any house hold work and I helped her in whatever ways I could.
With this union we planned a trip to her native place. Though I was skeptical, I went with them. To my surprise, I was adored, pampered and became an instant favorite amongst the entire family. My MIL’s elder sister just did not stop praising as to how lucky they all are to get me as their DIL. The only job I had was to dress up, play with the children of the house hold and interact with youngsters who were preparing for govt services exams. All were v happy.
My parents & MIL were not in talking terms for the past 1 year and so they never visited or called each other. At the end of the trip I started to my home. Suddenly SIL along with her new born daughter, her son, and MIL got into our car and announced that they are coming to meet my parents. MIL herself did not know this but still consented. I was shocked and worried of what would happen next. Both set of families received each other well & treated each other with respect and no howling of past happened. They had lunch, had a good chat and left. My H was gleaming with joy seeing the change…I hate him but still love him.
It was the unconditional love from someone else which, I failed to notice all these days, that made this entire trip bearable. He was there for me always irrespective of how I treated him. Right from the day I got engaged he had always loved me so much which I never knew. He not only saw to that I am treated like a princess but also never failed to propagate that am a 'beautiful kind angel' verbally in front of everyone. That was when a normal DIL like me was noticed in a crowd. I was his angel and he would fight hard to get my attention in all possible ways. He served food for me when nobody did it, got me roses whenever he went out, helped me in the minimal chores I did and stood as my pillar of support. He when we visited my parents made my parents so happy with his love, gratitude (especially when he told again and again how tasty the food was! The expression on MIL's face was priceless) and kisses. When silence prevailed his cute innocent words lightened the situations. He was ready to come to my city to stay with me leaving behind everything making his mom and grandma extremely jealous of me. They can control my H but not this hero..
He made my H feel guilty and taught him what is standing up for someone means. My H felt jealous of the bond we shared and slowly started becoming expressive. H started hugging and pampered me in front of his mom & sister. The attention these two guys gave me forced my MIL to treat me good.
I could not forget his tears when he hugged me tight in the middle of the road and cried out loud pleading to be with me for one more hour at the time of biding good bye. He begged me not to go and was dragged into the car. I myself in tears gave him a doll, did not turn and started walking back. He shouted “**** maami (aunty in tamil), I will miss you so much. I will come to your place as soon as my exams gets over. It’s a promise”. I was told by my H that the little one was hugging the doll throughout the entire night crying and even refused to have dinner. My little 9 yrs old nephew..I love you so much for making me worthy in front of people who tried to put me down in every possible means and this is the best Christmas gift I ve ever got.
Being confident, polite and not bending backwards to please the not so righteous people is really blissful!
I don’t know how things would be in future but for now all is ok ok
So ladies if you are in some pain at this instant please believe that this too will pass away.
A pleasant interlude..
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