jeudi 26 février 2015

How do you stay composed in an argument?

Friends I had been an emotional & v expressive person right from childhood with reqd amts of ego. I apologize only when required but at the same time cant stand silent treatment. During college days when in hostel, my bestie used to literally cry and beg to me to talk immediately after a big fight. She always tells am egoistic but all I wanted actually was to cool myself & then talk. But she never gave me time..As time went on I got habituated to that & became a part of my personality..It was indeed v easy for me to sort out issues then and there.

Now with H, I start the fight because I have a valid point. But the pblm is when I argue with my H, I never give him time for anything. He is exactly of guessho’s suggestion types. .Very dignified in that manner. Never hesitates to ask sorry..If I shout he tells calm & get composed then we can talk. If I accuse him he walks out of the room saying I have some work. If I cry he consoles me but still I will explain too much, egs, analysis etc etc & he will be calm throughout and tells he needs time to think about it. But I will follow him till he opens his mouth & say something... Finally he cries when I relate it with love.


Again the after effects will be me sulking and ignoring him..He will talk limited & again we make up finally somehow...Actually for my own betterment & peace of mind I want to stay composed..What do you people do? Suggestions solicited?


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How do you stay composed in an argument?

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