Some background:
We spent almost 5 years of our initial married life with our in-laws in a joint family back in India. And BIL and co-sis, who got married an year earlier have been living in US.
She is a SAHM and I have been working from the beginning.
From the day 1, she has been jealous of me for my relationship with inlaws, my husband, my status of being working etc. There were lots of incidents in the past to prove this. But, I don't want to go into those details.
However, we have never had open tiffs etc. Whenever, we met, in spite of knowing her attitude towards me, I always tried to be cordial, because my BIL is a great person. And I do not my petty behavior to affect the peace in family.
Coming to the Frustrating part:
She being competitive with me is understandable, but, I notice that, the treatment is carried over to my DD as well. My DD and her son are same age. And this lady, falls to the extent of not wishing my DD purposefully on her birthday, when the child is offering her sweets. Really?!! to a 4 year old???
She would turn her face, as my DD addresses her for something.. She will pretend to not hear her.. I mean, I am totally irritated at this behavior. This happened, when we were at their place for a short trip.
Infact, since, my DD was born first, the first time, she visited us, she did not even care to look at the child or anything.. I ignored all that, because at that time, I thought probably she was too engrossed with her own child.. Happens sometimes..
All this makes me think, should I really continue being cordial with her.. In all these years, she has never once, wished us when we meet.. She will just wait for us to wish her, or say HI.. Even when we were visiting them.. She wont invite us or say Hi, just keep a blank face.. We have to initiate the conversation.
How long can I carry on like this? Shouldn't the respect be mutual??
Dealing with a snobbish co-sister
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