I don't know if I can ask this here in forum. But I want to know.
I am a crossdresser. I mean, I am a boy who like to dress as a girl. I feel as a girl and like to be considered as a girl. I have only online friends who knows me well.
But many does not seem to understand me and which I know its expected from our society.
I am looking for friends, sisters, mothers who can accept me as I am.
the hair will be long.the hair length will not be reduced at the back.it will remain the same. but on both the sides, hair will be till shoulder length.i thought it is layer cut but in layer cut, the hair at the back will also be reduced but in this only hair will be cut at the shoulder but at the back it will be the same.i am going to cut my hair on Tuesday but what is the name of this cut I don't know.can anyone help me?
It is a shame for someone in public life to say something so demeaning about women in general and about the culture of a great nation in particular. It is not enough if he is reprimanded by rejection from politics but he should be taught a lesson by his own family members and friends summarily rejecting him for making such a deplorable statement in public.
Subjective opinion of this magnitude should not be viewed with tolerance and should be severely condemned by every social, political and religious organizations in India. He is legitimatizing the character of his son through a general statement that is disgraceful to both men and women in the entire nation. I am not suggesting that he should be treated like how such offenses are dealt with by ISIS but at least opinions from all walks of life should be expressed strongly against such public statements. The party that continues to keep him as a leader deserves condemnation from the common public.
Hindus prostrate seven holy forests, seven holy cities and seven oceans whenever they do mahasankalpam.Lord Siva is hailed as 'Vanaspathi( Lord of the forests)Shiva himself is described as a forest and his hair as green.Rudram and Chamakam of Yajurveda speaks highly of vrikshas( trees).
Varahamihira in his Brihat samhita elaborates on trees used for making images of gods.
The slokas recited while cutting the tree for making 'icons' reads as under:
" o tree,you have been selected for the worship,( through an image)of a particular deity.Salutations to you!This worship offered by me in accordance to the scriptures may kindly be accepted by you.May all the living beings that dwell in this tree accept the offering of worship and depart to another tree for residing.May they pardon us now.We bow to them!"
Now a days every one talks about 'environment care' and 'the slogan 'of'grow more trees'.
Is it possible in this urbanisation to grow trees in our houses?Of course small shrubs can be grown.
Tree climbers are very few in number and they charge Rs250/-to climb a tree and the yield will be around 30 coconuts .With cholesterol consciousness, many have stopped using coconuts for cooking.It is very difficult for the householders either to sell the coconuts or preserve the coconuts or to take efforts to extract oil from the same.
In March, April urchins hit at mangoes and simply run away sometimes breaking the glass doors of windows.
Pests and worms are very common in mango trees . For the past three years some strange insects and worms enter the house causing allergy and itching.All the children suffered with high fever. The remedy suggested by Govt depts yielded no positive results. Irrespective of our understanding ,and the shady cool atmosphere,my neighbour, aged 80, decided to cut down all the trees which he had grown with much love and affection all these 40 years.. on the auspicious Mahashivarathri day. The cutters also showed some Karpoora Aarthi to the trees.They used electrical saw to cut the trees.Within 10 hrs all the trees were totally uprooted.The owner paid around Rs 20000/- to cut, transport the logs and dispose of the green leaves.A big log of wood fell on his motor room and the entire pumpset was damaged beyond repair.The parapet wall in our terrace was damaged beyond repairs.
Now the house is bright, sunny and bereft of all natural beauty without the sounds of birds nesting on them.'Everything is going away from me;children have settled elsewhere;now the plants which I nourished for 50 years have left me."he said chokingly.
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Every asset becomes a liability in some point of time.
It is 10 days since our neighbour cut off all the trees. I saw a small bird sitting on my window .The bird perhaps was occupying the neighbour's mango tree so long.Having lost the accommodation it was looking up where to go. There are a few trees in our house and that of adjacent neighbour.When driven out it flew, perched on our coconut tree and another mango tree, but came back to the same window again.It would have easily flown and started residing on other trees..Perhaps it was thinking about future plans.
While even a small bird does not want to change the tree in which it has been living, we can very well imagine how human beings feel when they are forced to move to another house or Old Age home.
While we begin growing trees with great enthusiasm,many cannot cope up with nurturing, manuring, use pest control methods and even to simply water the trees during water scarcity
Mounts of coconut leaves and mango leaves are strewn throughout giving cool shade for any reptile to creep in.
Some flower, fruit vendors or even fish vendors use the shady road for marketing their product, sometimes set up a small table etc and unauthorisedly occupy the frontage of the house leading to unwanted elements crowding before the house- a challenge to the security of the house.
After cutting down all the trees one can shout at top most voice
" A person inhales oxygen equivalent to three cylinders of oxygen, each cylinder costing rs 700/- For a year @ rs 2100 per day, it may work out Rs 766500/ and a conservative estimate of Rs 5 crores in an average life of 65 years.This is the monetary of value of 'FREE OXYGEN'that plants bestow on us.'Let us respect, appreciate and protect plants for the welfare of the humanity'.
Jayasala 42
When I was in my teens, I stumbled across a copy of James Joyce’s Ulysses,. The back cover blurb informed me that the book had been banned in many countries For a teenager in whose school, steamy Tamil booklets purporting to be first person confessions of top Tamil film actresses sex life were a must if forbidden read..
I must confess that I wouldn’t have heard of Madhorubagan or its English translation One Part women but for the worthy people who protested against it, burnt its copies and bullied the author into submission with a little help from a passive state machinery. The author Perumal Murugan got so traumatized that he swore never to write any more and asked the publishers to withdraw his works from the market.
But for these honourable ladies and gentlemen, who thought the work insulted their Kongu vellalar or Gounder community, the work would not have excited curiosity at the national level and remained confined to the small circle of lovers of good literature . But five years after its publication someone got the enlightenment that the book was offensive and voila!!!!! Everyone , including yours truly, got curious about it.
Unable to get the book in Delhi I unloaded its pdf freely circulating on the internet and read it to have a real mind-blowing experience. I thank the naughty book burners of Namakkal for that.
Please if you know Tamil do read it in the original. Even though the Kongu patois often goes over one’s head with a little effort one can understand everything by context.. Lot is lost in translation. Remember, the book is set in an extremely rustic rural milieu in the 1930s and 40s.The way the people speak using coarse expressions sounds perfectly okay in Tamil but when translated into a language alien .to the rural Kongunadu region of Tamil Nadu it sounds crude. After all the book is about a farming and shepherding community and not about middle class or upper middle class people.
Madhorubagan is a moving story of how the weight of tradition wrecks the marriage of a childless couple. Kali and Ponna are deeply in love but are childless for nearly 12 years after marriage The images of the blooming Poovarasan tree (couldn’t find the English word for it), a symbol of fertility here with which the book opens and ends reinforces the pathos of the couple. In a society where having an offspring is everything to leave one’s property and to find salvation in the next world (towards the end of the book Perumal Murugan says how some childless people seeking someone to perform their last rites face hard bargains, forcing them even to bequeath their property to someone who undertakes to do that).this is particularly tortuous and the couple face open and subtle slights at every turn.
The couple undertakes pilgrimages, prayers at various temples.B ut Kali’s grandmother tells him that the family is under the curse of Pavatha a tribal gloddess who was angered by the rape and murder of a Tribal girl by some youths belonging to Kali’s gounder community. According to the curse men of the families linked to the guilty youths would either have a short lifespan or be childless, the grandmother tells Kali.
Here Perumal Muruggan brings up the secondary theme of the book---the conflict between tie traditional society of hunters and gathers living in forests and the farmers who cut down forests for cultivable fields. This not only adversely affects the livelihood of the forest dwelling tribals but also results in their culture and religious beliefs being subsumed by the culture of the advancing agricultural society.
In this context, the priest at the Shiva Ardhanariswara temple of Tiruchengode town tells Kali, that there is no separate goddess called Pavatha and that is only a name of Ardhanariswara, who is part Shiva and part Parvathi He is Madhorubagan or One Part Woman.
But has the tribal culture been fully subsumed? Kali and his brother in law Muthu during wanderings in the forest find a statue of Pavatha where some remnants of the tribal society are offering prayers to the goddess,. Now the members the agriculturist family try to appease the tribal goddess . “But Pavatha’s anger didn’t subside” says the author and Ponna remains childless.
Now here comes the controversial part. As a last desperate measure, Kali’s mother and Ponna’s family conspires (with the best of intentions, of course) to take Ponna to Tiruchengode for the annual festival of the Shiva temple.on its last day when childless women can cohabit with any man for a child .as all men coming to that day of the festival are considered manifestations of Shiva. The child born from such a union is called “Sami Pillai” or God’s child and is accepted by the society.
Now, here the author touches on another theme: How lack of adequate communication can ruin a marriage. Kali is not for Ponna having “sami pillai” but does not explicitly tell her so. And she is given to understand by her mother and brother that while Kali is not really happy about it, he has agreed for Ponna’s sake. At the temple festival she finds her “sami” after rejecting a couple of men while Kali unaware of this indulges in a nightlong boozing session with his brother –in-law.
When Kali totters to his in-laws home in the morning, he finds the house locked and realizes that Ponna had gone to the festival on the free love day. In a rage he rushes to his own home drinks heavily, abuses the wife whom he had loved so far dearly as a whore and collapses. The book ends with the image with which it began, that of the Poovarssan tree.
I think what raised the hackles of those slamming the book is this practice of childless women coupling with strangers for a child and that too at a temple festival. But let us not forget that the community about which the book deals was originally a Kshatriya clan that came down the caste ladder to become a farming community. The practice of Niyoga, or a childless Kshatriya woman sleeping with a man other than her husband to beget a child is not unfamiliar. In fact the entire Mahabharata could be read as tragic consequences of this practice.
Many communities have practices that they would like to keep under wraps to avoid embarrassment. Perumal Murugan a gounder himself .came to know of the practice only few years ago while researching on Tiruchengode on a research grant provided by the Tatas.
The protestors contend that the Kongu vellalar community is divided into several sub-castes and that makes the practice impossible.. But remember according to the tradition on which the practice is based, every male coming to the festival at Tiruchengode Madhorubagan temple was considered Shiva’s manifestation regardless of caste or subcaste.
In all a moving book that left me stunned for sometime after finishing it and then made me angry at pointless traditions. Do read it if you are lucky enough to find a copy and the publishers have ignored Murugan’s appeal to withdraw it. If you can’t pdf is on the internet.
I thank again all those cattiest worthies who made the author their target. But for them my appetite for good contemporary Tamil literature might not have been whetted..
Doha Ilites...
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Type of meetup: Special women's day meetup( Snack and chit - chat - games)
venue: Opp Dar al salam mall
Dress code : Red and Red shades with any attire
time : 11 am to 1:30 pm
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We were living in an apartment on rent about 1500. My hubby hate to rent the place. the apt was small.. with 1 bathroom.. Mil once visited and said it is so small etc etc..So after many researches he bought a house in SF costing 775,000$. And now the mortgage is 4000$...
I did not like the idea of buying new house. I told him,we could live here in old place. Once i get the job we could start hunting for new home. But he and his mother decided that its the right time to take place. Mil Thinks its a brave decision. I think its not.
now hubby is stressed. And is passing his financial problems to me, like we can't afford new things. If i married a working girl then the condition would be different. We can't afford anything now. Now the son is 1 yr old,but if you don't find the job soon we can't afford the schooling also..
There is no single day when he said he is feeling unlucky cuz he married a girl like me,who don't have job. I am feeling so depressed.. It was his decision to buy this house. And blaming me..
If a couple wants to start a family,in say another 6 months, when is the best time for the lady to consult a gynaecologist, and what are the checkups and tests that gynecs usually prescribe for ladies to check their general and reproductive health ? (blood tests/ultrasound etc?). One doctor mentioned to me that they may conduct tests to check the immunity and may recommend some vaccinations or booster doses for the woman if her immunity level is not very good.Do gynecs usually prescribe any prenatal multivitamins/folic acid tablets to women who are TTC? If yes, please mention the names of the tablets prescribed.
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I returned to work last January 29th . Till then I was exclusively breastfeeding my son. But then I switched to formula. He will be on formula in the day time and at night I will be feeding him. But now it seems as though he is not getting enough milk when I am feeding him. He would suck his hands soon after i feed him. Also i need to feed him for hours!! (this was not the case till a few weeks ago). Now I am really worried that my milk supply at night time has gone down!! I know that if we don't feed baby, the supply will drop at that particular time of the day. But I am feeding him at night regularly, so i should be having enough milk at night. Is n't it? Now I am so much worried about it. I have heard of Lactare. Should i try that? Is it available in UAE?
But i am worried that after consuming it, I will have leaking breasts at work!
Here we do not have the option to express milk at office!!
DD - I love ketchup, pasta sauce, marinara, rasam etc but if I see an actual piece of tomato that may get into my plate by mistake, I will not eat my food. I will throw a fit until my mom fishes the tomato out of my plate. I will eat every other veggie including bitter gourd and all fruits but will not touch tomatoes and watermelons. I will gag when watermelon is mentioned in my presence.
DS -Im fun to raise. I ate all my food and ate well until I turned two. My mom thought I developed a sudden texture issue because I wasn't eating anything right after I turned two. My mom stood on her head but I ate no veggies, meats, grains or fruits. Mom convinced herself that I have an aversion to texture. That's until my aunt visited and fed me Kerala chicken curry. The woman who gave birth to me didn't figure out that I want my zing. No bland eggs, chicken, fish, pasta or anything else for me. Anything that goes in my mouth has to have added seasoning, or else, I will not touch it. I refuse to look at plain boiled eggs. It has to be seasoned with garam masala and fried onions for me to even look at it.
Anyways so dh booked the tickets and both international and domestic. Its been 2 years of marriage, I expect at-least some level of independence of making decisions and expected them to be okay with it (and how naive am I, but I knew they will do drama about that). So dh sent them the itinerary of our visit and I waited patiently for the bomb to explode. And explode it did....
Dh took this call in my absence as he was away but he told me about this, about what all they said. All rude comments. Things like he is not a good son. He did not ask them before booking domestic flights about when to go to my place, (when we consulted my mil after marriage about when to go to my place, she said there is not auspicious days so you wont go, and she is saying the same now also as I had expected, knowing this me and dh had decided to book the tickets without asking). Then they also have been trying to stalk me on fb and whatnot, to try and keep a tab on my activities. I have never felt more violated in my life. Dh said he is used to it , they have done this to him also. Somewhere my uncle had asked when are we coming to India, and I might have replied to him that maybe in the mid of the year(like you generally tell anyone when you are planning to come), so now they feel that we knew about are plans from 3 months back but are telling them right now because we dont respect. They questioned my and dh's relationship, saying he dsnt keep me in check and dsnt control me like a husband should. And lots of other things like we dint ask their permision before booking tickets. My parents dint call them to ask about sending me.(I have asked my parents not to call them anymore, because I dont know when they will say something rude and bad and if they hurt my parents once more I will totally lose it and probably end the marriage). And also i was planning to come back to inlaws place before coming back to US, and they said what is the need to come back before going, to show us stuff she got from her parents. They even said that there is no need to come to dh and a lot of other stuff and rude remarks about my parents. I m so furious at them I might jst explode myself. My parents are so happy about this trip but all his parents do is create more and more issues.
Dh is very upset with them and said its like they are forcing us to cut ties with them. I have never felt more outrage in my life. Dh is considering cancelling the plan and sending me to my parents to visit them and come back as I haven't seen them for 2 years after marriage. Or if we go we will have standing reservation in a hotel so that we can leave their place if it become unbearable.
What do u ladies advise I should do now? If we do go show do you think I should behave with them? I have half a mind of showing them their true face and the bitter truth about their personality, but then I dont want to hurt dh who has always supported me. He dsnt aggressively defend me but he supports me, which is okay, i dont want him to disrespect his parents either. But the situation is so bad right now, I dont know how to behave with them. Please advice ladies.
There is more but right now I am just too angry to write anything else. Apologies for the long post.
I totally agree with you that what is happening around us these days is really scary. There have been times when I too, have been quite scared wondering how it would be to raise my two children (a boy and a girl) in times like these.
Though there is hardly any large scale solution for the society as such, I do believe that on a small or individual front (family level), there are few steps that can be taken. We can, as parents, try and create a safe, loving and friendly atmosphere at home so that the child needn't depend on social network to feel loved or 'like'd. We should try to make them feel at ease with us and make sure that they know that we are always there for them no matter what. It always helps if they have the secure feeling that they can come talk to us about anything.
We may not be able to change the society as a whole, but we can definitely try to bring up confident, well behaved individuals who are aware of the pros and cons of their actions.
A new Middle School near Elsa England Elementary school in Pearson Ranch road is planned to open for the school year 2017-18. The bond was passed for this school early 2014.Read the news here - http://ift.tt/1BIP4wm
Cedar Valley Middle school serving the communities in and around Great Oaks area is so crowded. This new Middle school is so badly needed.
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My daughter actually loves her meal time and has been self feeding finger food since 8 months and proficient with a spoon since 14 months. I haven't physically fed her anything since she was 16 months. Any time that I announce a meal or snack, she runs to the table and eagerly sits in her chair and starts eating when I place the food in front of her. She wakes up on her own between 6:30 and 7AM DEMANDING breakfast saying "MOMMY, I'm HUNGRY!" This is because I give her dinner at 6PM every night and put her to bed around 8PM on school nights (preschool starts at 8:30AM) so she goes 12 hours without food and wakes up hungry.
We sit down at the table together for half an hour and eat side by side. I serve her food she likes and never make her finish her meal. Whatever she eats in half an hour, so be it. Even if she only eats a few bites, she eats them happily. I respect her appetite and food preferences.
When she was teething or having a cold she would eat way less (sometime she said she was done after 2 or 3 bites of mac and cheese and one strawberry). When she was having a growth spurt, she would eat way more than usual, gobbling down an entire sandwich, a bowl full of blueberries, and asking for more food. The key is I always respected the amounts she ate. If she eat very little, I'd offer a snack a couple of hours later. When she was first spoon feeding herself, 1/3 of the food would end up on the floor, 1/3 on her body (including her hair!), and maybe 1/3 in her mouth! Yes, she'd make a mess but it would only take 5 minutes to clean up after the meal and she had a lot of fun and developed some motor skills while she learned to self feed!
She is not a large child; she is on the small side and only in the 19th percentile for weight but she is healthy and enjoys food.
In my circle of stay at home mom friends (all raised in the U.S, some ABCD, some white Americans, some other Asians, and one Latino lady), ALL our kids enjoy their meals and none of us have feeding issues. That's because we allow the CHILD to determine how much they want to eat and only serve them food they like! (There are rare cases of non-Indian kids having food issues for medical reasons and in that case medical intervention is given to solve the feeding issues but I'd estimate less than 1 percent of non-Desi kids have food refusal issues).
Contrast that to what I see with my husband's India-raised friends and how about 90 percent of the moms have food issues with their kids. I see moms running behind their 3-8 year old kids as they play with their friends, watch TV, play video games, trying to shovel as much food down their throats as possible in any-which-way they can. Kids dread mealtime and so do the moms! They keep their kids up until 11PM on SCHOOL NIGHTS spending 3 hours feeding them dinner forcing them to finish no matter what. Then they complain about how hard it is to wake their kid up for school and force feed them breakfast in the morning. The number one complaint from Indian moms is their kid doesn't eat enough and how much "work" it is to feed them all day.
Feeding your child should not be "work" but a pleasant, happy experience of spending quality time sitting side by side. It is okay to physically spoon feed or hand feed a young toddler but only if they are willing. Other than that, encourage them to pick up food on their own and enjoy the food together. If your child doesn't like a particular food, offer an alternative. My daughter has some likes and dislikes but I'm always able to give her healthy food she likes (whole grain mac and cheese, steamed carrots, cheese sandwiches on whole wheat bread, tandoori chicken, roti, etc). She does not like dhal, spinach, or broccoli so I don't ever force her eat it (although I've disguised spinach in pasta salad which she eat happily!)
The bottom line is 1) Respect your child's likes and dislikes and serve them food that they like 2) Respect their choice in quantity and don't try to force them to eat more than they would otherwise. Sit down at the table together for half an hour and whatever they eat in half an hour, accept it and do not try to force them to eat more. Set the timer and take the food away after half an hour. If your child wants to get down in 5 minutes, tell them we are sitting together until the timer goes off. You can physically feed your child if they are willing to accept but encourage them to eat on their own because messes take only 5-10 minutes to clean up as opposed to spending hours running behind the kid force feeding. Mealtime should not last for hours. 3) Relax, relax, relax. If you think your kid is too thin, take them to a doctor and see what they say. Usually as long as your kid is above the 5th percentile, it's okay. If your kid is way off the charts (less than 1st percentile), maybe work with the doctor to implement a feeding plan.
I would love to hear from any other Desi moms (raised in the U.S., India, or elsewhere in the world) who have had success in the "American" way of feeding their kids.
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I would like to get your opinion about something that has been in my mind for a while. IMO this is also a very common thing happening in especially Indian families. I am not sure if this topic was discussed before.
How do you ladies handle grown up men (relatives like uncles, granddads, family friends etc) pampering your children (esp little girls) by hugging, kissing etc? Are you comfortable in general with that? Do you speak up only if you feel your child is uncomfortable? I am not taking about sexual abuse. I hope you can understand what I am talking about here. It is about men (other than dad) hugging/kissing your children as a sign of showing their love.
I have a baby boy. I do not mind my dad, cousin brothers, maternal uncle hugging/kissing him. I only see pure love in that. Having said that if my boy doesnt like it (once he can express himself) I will certainly back him and at the same time will make sure I dont hurt the feelings of my loved ones.
I myself have faced this couple of times.
(1) When I was 7 years old (my sis was 5) we visited our relative’s home along with our mom. That couple do not have children even after several years of marriage and the uncle is very fond of little kids. So he was literally showering kisses on both of us(it was nonstop the entire time we were there) and we were very very uncomfortable. From what I remember he was a very good person and I dont think he had any evil thoughts in his heart. After we came home, I and my sis told our mom that we will never visit them again. My mom too felt uncomfortable during the whole time but could not speak up. I dont recall even my dad kissing us in our cheeks at that age. Of course we hug our dad even now.
(2) This is a weird situation. I faced this 3 years before. My DH's uncle (husband of MIL's elder sis) has this strange (rather disgusting) habit of hugging tight and kissing grown up women in their cheeks while welcoming or saying good bye to them. I have seen him doing this to all my DH's grown up (who are in their 20s) cousin sisters. I really dont know how to interpret this. He tried doing this to me during our last India visit in front of my DH. I distanced myself and never allowed it. My DH was furious and said he could talk to him about it. I said that it is not required. Well, I am not a little girl and I can very well defend myself in this situation. Moreover it is not like he is doing it by force. It was more like a casual gesture and he can do it only if the other lady cooperates. Anyway this is very weird to us and I hate it. Coincidentally this uncle and aunt do not have any children. It was obvious to me that my DH's cousin sisters were not comfortable when their uncle did this to them. But in the name of 'obedience to elders/not talking back to elders' they remained silent. We will never bring up our children like this. They have to talk back/defend themselves when they dont like something no matter whoever is there in the receiving end. If we are present there of course we will back our kids.
I would like to hear similar experiences from you all and how you handled it (for yourself/for your kids).
P.S: @Guesswho - I recently read in one of your posts where you mentioned that age deserves consideration but not respect and that Respect should be earned. I really liked it very much. I also admire you how beautifully you have presented your thoughts in words. I am not very good in writing even though my thinking is in the same line as yours (about almost everything )
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I am 31 yrs old, I never missed my periods before, married since 3 years no kid, detected thyroid 2 years ago and now i am taking 112mg thyroxine tablet everyday,
This month i forgot to take thyroid tablet for 2 days
Now its 51days gone... no period... negative test checker and at home, at 42nd day i went to gynac and he checked with ultra sound machine and said I am not pregnant and its because of Harmon and he prescribed norethisterone (5mg) tablets for 5days, but i stoped those tablet at 2nd day
But no symptoms at all, and current 5.83 tsh level
Is there any chances of pregnancy
Thanks
I have heard that its not easy to rent a place and can take 3-4 weeks
I would be reaching on 29th March with my daughter. I'm just hoping that he find a place in the mean while.
Any ideas on how can we rent soon? Our budget is 450-550 pw max.
In my opinion, reasonable MILs will be supportive, more caring for the babies than moms. Sometimes, their old wives tale stories could upset us. Though we here almost same stuff from moms, we are tuned to it; thus adjustment is easy.
A couple of month is fine. You can completely heal yourself from c-sec and learn your baby within a month unless there are complications. So, better move back to your own house and live with your immediate family.
I would like to discuss here about the Serial KMKV.... which is been based on the story custody and also it is been coming in Star plus -Yeh Hai Mohabbatein - in star plus channel.
It has been started long before.
Ok friends
Lets comment about this serial that too mainly of Priya, Arjun and of course our pooja kutty too.
Waiting for your comments
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It can be completely cured from our system.Removing the symptoms alone may make the disease to come again. Eradicate the root cause is mandatory...
PRANIC HEALING, a no-touch; no-drug therapy cure almost all disease. Through pranic healing millions of patients completely got cured.
(Just I say my case, I was a IBS sufferer for 8 long years. IBS: Irregular bowel moments through out the day, the stomach cant hold food for a long time as it should. I always rush to loo/toilet after having foods. Quite pathetic it was. The whole medical world is still claiming there is NO MEDICINE for IBS till date. )
But now i am completely cured with the help of PRANIC HEALING. I referred all my beloved ones who have problems like SINUS,SKIN ALLERGY,DEPRESSION,VISON PROBLEMS etc.. All are completely cured with the help of Pranic healing. I can still remember people who are leading a healthy life now earlier affected by chikungunya, paralysis..
For further details you can contact your nearest PRANIC HEALING centre. They will heal all your physical, psychological problems COMPLETELY.
Pranic Healing Online | Learn.Heal.Connect.
Now with H, I start the fight because I have a valid point. But the pblm is when I argue with my H, I never give him time for anything. He is exactly of guessho’s suggestion types. .Very dignified in that manner. Never hesitates to ask sorry..If I shout he tells calm & get composed then we can talk. If I accuse him he walks out of the room saying I have some work. If I cry he consoles me but still I will explain too much, egs, analysis etc etc & he will be calm throughout and tells he needs time to think about it. But I will follow him till he opens his mouth & say something... Finally he cries when I relate it with love.
Again the after effects will be me sulking and ignoring him..He will talk limited & again we make up finally somehow...Actually for my own betterment & peace of mind I want to stay composed..What do you people do? Suggestions solicited?
we will be moving to New York / NJ next month. My daughter is in grade 2 here, DOB oct 2007. She might be asked to join Grade1 or 2 there. Her school follows IB syllabus and had skating, swimming in addition to other activities. She is very passionate about skating and has participated in Zonal level competitions.
I am looking for a school which has good values and also emphasis on sports with skating rink. Can you please suggest me one?
I think we need to look for apartments for which the school is assigned.
Please reply asap with whatever information you have. Thanks in advance.
What i did for making jhumka:
1.condition the clay thro pasta machine.
2.Roll to the thickest setting and using round cutter i cut the clay into circles.
3.Apply oil inside the dome mold.
4.Place the clay on top of the inside mold and cently press at the center. Shape it to the shape of the dome.
5.When i am pressing ,i can see the edges are uneven in shape.
6.Design and bake it.
What i am doing wrong?
I am carrying know I ant to bring my prents to usa from india everything is fine...due date is jun and my question is.Is it good to bring both(mom and dad)at a time or first mom will come later after 4 months if I bring dad for 2 months so that while returning they both can travel at a time ani naa obnion.I want suggestions...dad is govt employer he can stay only for 2 months...so is it good to come both at a time during first 6 months or other option..
I tried to explain her that all her friends has brother/sister. Mom and dad also has brothers and sisters. Its going to be fun. She can have a friend at home....I also said, she does not have to worry about TV time, she can continue with same TV time that she is getting.
But then she started crying and said why are you reminding this, I want to be alone...etc. When I asked why she is saying no, she said, she doesn't know.
I didn't understand how can I explain to her. So just changed the topic.
I am still in first trimester, so I have enough time.
Please friends let me know how to explain her having a sibling is fun.
Ideas to soothe.
1. Listening to music - any genre that you like, preferably one that you listened to growing up.
2. Gardening if you have one.
3. Creative crafts
4. Talking to people outside of your office circle if you love talking
5. Some people I know turn to religious faith, doing religious rituals brings great calm to the mind.
6. A vigorous work-out
7.Cleaning vessels/dishes or any other form of cleaning
8. Reading stuff that has nothing to do with your work.
9. Talking to an old person/ kids (even if they are not your own).
5வது மாடியில் அழகான இளம்பெண் ஒருத்தி லிப்ட் ல ஏறி அந்த கணவன் பக்கத்தில் நிற்க, அவன் அவளின் அழகில் மயங்கி ஜொள் விடுகிறான். சிறிது நேரத்துக்குப்பின் அவள் இவனது கன்னத்தில் ஓங்கி அறைந்து விட்டு "இனி இப்படி செய்தால் செருப்பு பிஞ்சிரும்" னு சொல்லிட்டு அவனிடமிருந்து விலகி நிற்கிறாள்.
இவனுக்கோ தன் மனைவி முன்னிலையில் அடிவாங்கிய அவமானம். லிப்ட் ல இருந்து இறங்கி வெகுநேரமாகியும் மனைவியிடம் பேச வெட்கி வாயடைத்தான். வீட்டிற்கு நடக்கிறார்கள்.
மனைவி : ஏங்க அதையே நினைச்சிகிட்டு. விடுங்க. ஏதாவது பேசிட்டு வாங்க.
கணவன் : இல்லடி, நான் லிப்ட் ல...
மனைவி : அட, அத தான் விடுங்க னு சொன்னேன். நீங்க ஜொள் விடுறத பொறுக்காம நான்தான் அவ இடுப்பைக் கிள்ளுனேன்.
கணவன் : (மீண்டும் வாயடைத்தான்)்
And we didn't give her bottle milk right from first. She takes it in cups. So couldn't do that also.
I tell her stories and all. But will not be able to take a walk as I will reach home after 9.30 only.
If that is not going to be an issue, I feel I can continue feeding her.
Hello Ladies,I have my Thyroid removed sometime in 2013. I have irregular periods too. Has anyone got successfully pregnant with my conditions? We have been trying for few months now, I have my doc appointment next month to find out the reason for why I am not conceiving.
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Yes I believe at least one month in advance. I tried to fix appointment over phone they didn't pick up. Some people go in person to fix appointment. That place is damn crowded. Be prepared to spend a entire day there.
I am an incurable optimist!!
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From ‘The Hindu’ dated 26.2.15
Work permits for spouses of H-1B visa holders
1,79,600 persons to benefit in the first year alone
Author: Narayan Lakshman
Washington: The U.S. government has confirmed that effective May 26, 2015, some holders of the H-4 visa, who are spouses of high-skilled workers on the H-1B visa, will be eligible for work authorisation, a potential boon for approximately 179,600 individuals in the first year alone.
The announcement that H-4 visa holders, whose spouses are applying for a “green card,” that is, seeking employment-based lawful permanent resident status, will be eligible to work in the U.S. comes on the back of a lengthy campaign, including several articles in The-Hindu that highlighted the plight of those facing mental health issues and other challenges after realising they could not work in the U.S.
The move has particular relevance to India, as 76 per cent of the 96,753 people who received an H-4 in 2013 were from South Asia, many from India, a natural consequence of the fact that a large proportion of H-1B visas are also given to Indians.
Underscoring that an estimated 55,000 H-4 spouses will be eligible to apply in subsequent years, South Asian Americans Leading Together, a key community organisation here said that it welcomed the move, but that it was only the “first step,” as it limited work eligibility for H-4 visa holders to only those whose spouses were in line for a green card.
Spelling out the details this week, the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) Department said that finalising the H-4 employment eligibility was “an important element of the immigration executive actions President Obama announced in November 2014,” and the move aimed to “modernise, improve and clarify visa programs to grow the U.S. economy and create jobs.”
Recognising the intra-familial tensions created in many cases by the earlier denial of the right to work for H-1B spouses, USCIS Director Le?n Rodr?guez said the move “provides more economic stability and better quality of life for the affected families.”
The Department of Homeland Security (DHS) added that it expected this change would “reduce the economic burden and stress on H-1B non-immigrants and their families during the transition from non-immigrant to lawful permanent resident status.
Why all this cured only by pills/diagnosis/operations?? Why cant we cure this completely??????
It can be completely cured from our system.Removing the symptoms alone may make the disease to come again. Eradicate the root cause is mandatory...
PRANIC HEALING, a no-touch; no-drug therapy cure almost all disease. Through pranic healing millions of patients completely got cured.
(Just I say my case, I was a IBS sufferer for 8 long years. IBS: Irregular bowel moments through out the day, the stomach cant hold food for a long time as it should. I always rush to loo/toilet after having foods. Quite pathetic it was. The whole medical world is still claiming there is NO MEDICINE for IBS till date. )
But now i am completely cured with the help of PRANIC HEALING. I referred all my beloved ones who have problems like SINUS,SKIN ALLERGY,DEPRESSION,VISON PROBLEMS etc.. All are completely cured with the help of Pranic healing. I can still remember people who are leading a healthy life now earlier affected by chikungunya, paralysis..
For further details you can contact your nearest PRANIC HEALING centre. They will heal all your physical, psychological problems COMPLETELY.
Pranic Healing Online | Learn.Heal.Connect.
Here it goes:
The important thing in the Vrat is we should not consume sweet in any form(sugar,jaggery,Honey, snacks etc whatever which contains sweet). Fruits are permitted.
Step by step rules:
1. We can start the Vrat on a Thursday morning. After taking bath, in ur pooja room place a baba photo(if you have already have a baba statue or photo then its fine),offer flowers to him. Then in a small container you can fill sugar, place it in front of the photo. Now pray to Shirdi sai your wish.
2. The vrat should be done for entire 3 weeks with no exemption (for example if you start on 26th Feb’15, the fasting it should end by 18th Mar’15)
3. On the 3rd week Wednesday(preferably evening), you can go to the near by sai temple and offer Sweets to Shirdi sai.
4. The Vrat will be completed on the next day Paal Neivedyam to Baba in your home with the sugar that we put during the first week.
I personally done this vrat and got immense blessings of baba. I would come to know about this through some Tamil Aanmiga book.
May Shirdi sai bless us all with all health n wealth.
Arjun Kumanan
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Currently I am using a table for the purpose, but looking for some stylish alternative..
can anyone suggest a good ironing board to buy online...
Friends at all times… morning in the class rooms, night in the chat rooms. Professors of all kinds… some try to explain what they know while some confuse what we know. Exams every now and then… but preparations only just before. Practical’s every 6 months… some worries about the output where as some are worried about viva. Most of time at canteen than in the class room. All these combine our college life which is considered as the best of our life. The whole equation changes when it comes to the end. Some are focused on next steps, while some are confused. But then the one thing that is a common motto for most of us is campus. At least to answer the questions of our parents, neighbors, relatives and friends. Everyone is focused on cracking an interview as it is a common belief that cracking a job in campus interviews is easier than going out and trying on our own. When it comes to on-campus, the expectations are much higher and preparations are much lesser. I am now on in the mid of one such day of my life. My first interview.
Out of 200 odd students who came to attend the interview, only 120 made it through the Written and out of them only 60 were selected in the technical round. Some are tensed, some are worried, some are relaxed and some don’t care. It was a common belief that in on-campus interviews, if you clear the Written and Technical, you are almost at the edge. The final HR round started and each candidate is being called inside one by one.
“Karthick…”
“Yes sir.”
“You are the next candidate. Be ready.”
“Okay sir.”
“All the best Karthick.”
“Thank you Shiva.”
“Hey Shiva. Tell him Congrats. Not all the best.”
“What?”
“Why?”
“He is the Best Student Award achiever, good at communication. Everybody here knows that he is definitely going to be in the selected list.”
“Oh wow. Here comes the fortune teller Mr. Sathish.”
“Karthick. We all know that you will do some magic inside and will crack this.”
I just smiled at my friends and went inside the room for my HR round.
“May I come in?”
“Yes, please.”
“Take your seat.”
“To where?”
“What?”
“Nothing mam. Good evening.”
“A very good evening Karthick. By the way, no more calling sir’s and madam’s. This is not school or college anymore. I am Pragati Jeyneshkar and you can call me Pragati.”
“Okay Pragati. Sorry.”
“That’s fine. So, how are you feeling today? Is this your first interview?”
“Yes Pragati.”
“Okay good. So, tell me. How are you feeling today? Interview is like a gateway between your college and a whole new world of opportunities and learning to be successful in your life. How do you feel that? Feeling excited about that?”
“To be very frank, right now I am not feeling anything Pragati. The only thing that is running in my mind is what’s next?”
“Yes. I can understand that. It’s the very common confusion that runs in the mind of young people especially during the final days of their college. Okay. Let’s start the interview. So, Karthick, tell me something about yourself.”
“Myself? Okay. I am Karthick currently pursuing my BTech…”
“No no, not that. Tell me something beyond, something which is not there in your resume. Your short term goals, long term goals, your ambition in life.”
“I have not thought of that far yet Pragati. The one thing that I always tell to myself is that. No matter how far I go in life and how successful I turn out, I should not change myself and my foot should always be on the ground.”
“That’s very interesting. I never heard such an answer from youngsters. Very good. So, when will your exams be over?”
“In the mid of May.”
“Okay, if you made it through in this round, then you should be reporting in our campus by June 1st.”
“You mean June 1st of this year?”
“Yes, of course. And also you should sign on a 2 years bond with our company.”
“Bond?”
“Are you not aware of bond?”
“Ya, I am aware of what is a bond. But, I am not aware that we need sign on a 2yrs bond. We were not informed earlier.”
“But that’s common for every fresher.”
“Yes. But I guess there are some companies without bond.”
“There are. But, very rare.”
“And also, we were not aware that we need to report immediately after the examinations.”
“We are right now in need of fresh talent immediately and so we are calling quickly.”
I remained silent for a moment. When the HR observed me, she started questioning me whether I have some problem with the joining date and bond.
“Karthick. Seems you are not fine with the bond and reporting date?”
“I am just thinking Pragati. The first thing is bond. Because, if I sign on bond. I cannot quit for 2 years and what if I am not comfortable with the environment there?”
“Is this the first time you are going to stay away from home?”
“No Pragati. I am not talking about that. Any place, anywhere is okay for me. All I am thinking is what if I am not comfortable with the job or role there?”
“You seem to have lot of confusions and questions in your mind. As a fresher, you should be ready for all these things. This is the start of your career and you should be feasible enough to mould yourself to any kind of situation.”
“Yes Pragati. But, I already told you right. Growth in life should not change what we are.”
“Karthick. I can understand. This being your first interview, it will be this way. I am going to give you 5 minutes. Decide and tell me quickly.”
“No Pragati. Even after 5 minutes my answer will be the same.”
“Okay. The final decision will always be yours. You may leave now Karthick. Nice talking to you.”
I dint understand in what sense she said that its nice talking to me. Whatever it may be, I was not okay with the bond and the joining date and so left the place. After walking few steps, I just stopped and turned towards her.
“Mam. Oh sorry. Pragati.”
“Yes ? Karthick. Is there any change in your decision?”
“No Pragati. I wanted to ask you one thing.”
“Yes. Proceed.”
“I don’t understand one concept.”
“What’s that?”
“Right from the childhood to till college days, we were told that we have to respect elders, we should not call them with their names and all. But now, when we are educated and graduates, we were being told not to call sir and madam instead call with their names.”
Now, she remained silent. I waited for few seconds. Then I understood that she has no answer for that and so left the room.
“Hey Karthick. How did it go? Everyone came out in 5 to 10 minutes. But for you it took almost 25 minutes. What magic you did inside? I guess HR is flat for your answers?”
I don’t know what to tell them. As usual, I simply smiled for their questions.
(3 hours later…)
Finally, the results were out. Celebrations started among the people who made it through till the end. Our placement officer is reading out the names of the candidates who got selected. All my friends are so eager to hear my name because they don’t know what happened inside. But, I am not even listening to the list. I was just thinking. “Is job the only path to walk after college?”
When the entire list is completed, all started questioning me.
“What happened Karthick? We were actually very sure that you will get through it.”
“Karthick. That’s okay. It happens. This is your first interview. There are many opportunities in the coming days. I guess a better one is waiting for you.” – My placement officer is trying to console me. No one knows and no one will ever know what happened inside the four walls. But, there is one person who can understand completely what would have happened inside. Now, I should go and face her.
the journey to be continued ....
Thanks,
Anu
Despite of all the struggle, I believe my hope in Almighty remains!
On cold snow days, when you just don't want to get out or cant get out, what do you do?
I've been homebound for a few days. I could have gotten out today but I just didn't have it in me.
What do you do when you are hormonal and you know your period is on the way? The PMS is what makes me go crazy. I need a lot of self pep talk to get out the door. I keep telling myself that I can't do this today.
What do you do with sick kids? Home video or skip workout?
I just don't bother until the kids recover.
What do you do when you have stresses that you have no control over?
Stress is the biggest demotivator for me. I have to push myself on stress days. I get some extra motivation if I have made plans with my friend to workout together. I love talking to her and getting a workout in at the same time.
What about stress eating or eating stuff around the house when you have no energy to cook?
I'm having less of these days. I wake up early and finish my cooking for the day before my kids wake up. Hence, I don't have the "no food" excuse anymore. I do cook an additional subzi or some quinoa or something that I know no one else will eat but I need that for myself.
Mindless snacking, how do you control it? Especially when your kids are snacking and you go for the chips!
I just buy snacks that I know I will not get tempted to eat. I also buy mostly healthy snacks these days with the exception of some cookies here and there. There are things I can have at home and not eat and those are the things that I buy for the occasional guests or the kids. Any other way to help here?
How do you get your water in?
This is my biggest problem. I've now gone back to my old ways. I used to fill a big water bottle that I got for myself but now it's all out the door. How do you keep hydrated? Let me in on your secrets!
Hope you guys have lots more tips than the above. All motivation related queries are welcome too!
I would like to seek some help. Can you please help me to translate my Anniversary love letter to my husband. I am planning to make some anniv. Surprise by starting doing this in my video. I am foreigner though I know bit tamil but that is not enough for my semi long love letter. Please message me if anyone can help me so that i can post my letter.thank you
I have a couple of queries and I hope you will be able to help me.
1. My 4 month old always wants to sit up since he was 3 months. I initially tried to discourage him but he would not listen to me. He ALWAYS wants to sit straight up. I tried to hold him in inclined position but that was not okay for him. He wants to sit straight up.
Now at 4 months he always sits up of course with us supporting him. A couple of my freinds said not to restrain my child from his natural development and not all babies hit the milestones at the same time. But MIL is so against making him sit straight before he turns 6 months. Anyway he would not listen us and no matter how hard I try to distract/play/discourage him it always ends up in vain. I am worried if it is too early to sit up. He seems to be much comfortable tough. BTW he is a pretty tall baby for his age (97th percentile height) and rolled over at 3 months. His weight is on 50th percentile. Would this hurt him in the long run?
2. I have been exclusively feeding him with breast milk (directly from me when I am at home and from bottle when I am at work). But I got my periods a couple of days before. I was very very nauseous during the first day and could not eat anything. I also had cramps. This is how it always is for me since I was 14. And since I am breastfeeding now, my supply was almost NIL on that day. The next few days it kept improving since I was able to eat something but it nowhere close what my baby needs. I was very much worried about it. Today I am back to my regular diet and still it is not what it used to be. I never expected that I will get periods so soon.
I want to breastfeed atleast till he turns one. I had stored some milk when I had oversupply during the initial weeks and I used those for the past days. My baby has a good appetite and now I have none left out in store. Today we gave him formula after I nursed him. I feel guilty that I didnt work hard enough to save the extra milk when I had oversupply. I am very guilty about that. Now I dont have enough. Will it improve at all? Has anyone gone through this? My MIL says that it will continue to decrease gradually with each cycle. I am very distressed
Some background:
We spent almost 5 years of our initial married life with our in-laws in a joint family back in India. And BIL and co-sis, who got married an year earlier have been living in US.
She is a SAHM and I have been working from the beginning.
From the day 1, she has been jealous of me for my relationship with inlaws, my husband, my status of being working etc. There were lots of incidents in the past to prove this. But, I don't want to go into those details.
However, we have never had open tiffs etc. Whenever, we met, in spite of knowing her attitude towards me, I always tried to be cordial, because my BIL is a great person. And I do not my petty behavior to affect the peace in family.
Coming to the Frustrating part:
She being competitive with me is understandable, but, I notice that, the treatment is carried over to my DD as well. My DD and her son are same age. And this lady, falls to the extent of not wishing my DD purposefully on her birthday, when the child is offering her sweets. Really?!! to a 4 year old???
She would turn her face, as my DD addresses her for something.. She will pretend to not hear her.. I mean, I am totally irritated at this behavior. This happened, when we were at their place for a short trip.
Infact, since, my DD was born first, the first time, she visited us, she did not even care to look at the child or anything.. I ignored all that, because at that time, I thought probably she was too engrossed with her own child.. Happens sometimes..
All this makes me think, should I really continue being cordial with her.. In all these years, she has never once, wished us when we meet.. She will just wait for us to wish her, or say HI.. Even when we were visiting them.. She wont invite us or say Hi, just keep a blank face.. We have to initiate the conversation.
How long can I carry on like this? Shouldn't the respect be mutual??
I started with soft raisins Sanjuruby. That was around the time when she was able to eat food without gagging. penuts were introduced to her first into chutneys that I make for Dosa. Walnuts/pecans/pines etc were used when I made Basundi. So around 12-18 months of age.
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After 6 years of experience in IT industry, is it possible that our resume will be considered in other field such as an administrator job in schools etc.,I have already applied but sadly there was no response. I have clearly mentioned that my experience is in a different environment altogether.
Could anyone please suggest? I am sorry if this is any kind of a repeat post.
Greetings!
am a new member to this community, staying out of country..
Nice to chat with people of same wavelength..
Used to watch ILs discussions, ideas etc and at last decided to join, so that i can also share my ideas..
I found out that all of you are highly talented and are having innovative ideas..
As a person, who love colors, i would like to start a boutique of my own through FB.
Could any of you can provide some details, from where can i get good quality materials [locations preferred is hyderabad, delhi, chennai, jaipur, coimbatore]?
Hope you will accept me as your well wisher and will share your ideas..
Without being Happy within, we can never be stable and satisfied..
The purpose of the soul is Truth; the purpose of our life is Love; and the purpose of this universe is Compassion.
Beautiful day to all.
In life you should have good friends who are helpful when we need them. In that way me and my family have good friends who are always helpful and are there when we need them. My son's friends also help me whenever I need themMy daughter and son in law had gifted me with a Huawei mobile when I went to Dubai. There are all features in that , they uploaded music and gave and now early morning doing my cooking I am able to hear bakthi songs which keep my day fresh and energetic. When I came back to Mumbai my whatsapp was not working , when I asked my children about it they said must be some problem, but cant find out from there because when they come here only they can find out.
Then my computer was going blank , so I called my son's friend who is in software and he always helps. He sent his engineer and he found out th emistake and made it alright. Then I told him about my mobile. He said you have put wrong password. Instead of putting the wifi password. Then it started working. Having a nice mobile with all the features and if you dont know how to use it what is the problem. Now I am able to use whatsapp, internet , hear music etc. I was very thankful to my son's friend who came immediately to help me.
Life laughs at you when you are unhappy ….
Life smiles at you when you are happy ……
But, Life salutes you when you make others happy …
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Relax, you are under professional hands. You will probably have a preemie, may be full term.... but everything is going to be fine. Let the doc know if you bleed more vigpuruosly.... I was in much worse situation and i was 'taken care'... You will be too :).
My dayghter is 19 months , normal and naughty.
The noisier noons and calm evenings
Reminds me when the children are up.
The duller and more pathetic nights,
Make me cry, yet I don't give up!
The things at home at their places,
Are waiting too for the arrival
Of the little one who'll go places
Sooner and will return all well.
Like the thread of the kite that's flying,
I am so attached to you, my little one!
"Take your time. Thats fine!", am saying,
With that hope, but always asking when!
1.எண்ணங்கள் வெவ்வேறாக இருந்தாலும் , ஒருவர் எண்ணத்திற்கு ஒருவர் மதிப்பு தந்து சொல்வதை காதில் வாங்க வேண்டும்.
2.கணவன் மட்டுமே வேலைக்கு செல்லும் வீட்டில் ,தன்னால் தான் குடும்ப பொருளாதாரம் இயங்குகிறது என்பதை எப்போதும் கணவன் வார்த்தைகளில் வெளிப்படுத்தக் கூடாது....
3.மனைவியும் வேலைக்கு செல்லும் வீட்டில், நானும் தான் வேலைக்கு போறேன் என்ற வார்த்தையை மனைவி அடிக்கடி சொல்லக் கூடாது.
4.இவரிடம்/இவளிடம் இதைச் சொன்னால் பெரிய பூகம்பமே வெடிக்குமோ என்ற பயத்தை ஒரு போதும் மனைவிக்கு கணவனும், கணவனுக்கு மனைவியும் தரக்கூடாது.பொய்யின் ஆரம்பமே பயம் தான்.
5.எவ்வளவு பெரிய சண்டை என்றாலும் உங்கள் இருவர் பற்றி மட்டும் தான் பேச வேண்டும்.கணவன் குடும்பத்தாரை பற்றி மனைவியும், மனைவியின் குடும்பத்தாரை பற்றி கணவனும் பேசவே கூடாது.தவறுகளில் மிகப்பெரிய தவறு இது.
6.மனைவியை தன்னில் ஒரு பாதியாக பார்க்காவிட்டாலும் வேலைக்காரியாய் பார்க்காமல் இருப்பது கணவனுக்கு அழகு.
7.மனைவியை ஏற்றது போல் அவள் குடும்பத்தையும் முழுமனதாய் கணவன் ஏற்க வேண்டும்.கணவனை ஏற்றது போல் அவன் குடும்பத்தையும் முழுமனதாய் மனைவி ஏற்க வேண்டும்.( இப்படி வாழ்ந்தால் முதியோர் இல்லங்கள் நிச்சயம் குறையும்)
8.கணவன் நண்பர்களுடன் ஊர் சுற்றி விட்டு நேரம் கழித்து வீடு வருவது. மனைவியை மட்டும் வீட்டுக்குள்ளே ஆயுள் கைதி ஆக்குவது, அவளை வெளியுலகம் அறியவிடாமல் செய்வது தவறு. படிப்பறிவில்லா பெண்களை சில ஆண்கள் இப்படித்
தான் நடத்துகின்றனர்.
9.கணவனும் மனைவியும் தனித் தனியே வெளியில் சென்றால் நேரமாய் வீடு திரும்ப வேண்டும் .அப்படி நியாயமான காரணத்திற்காக தாமதம் ஏற்பட்டால் ஒருவர் சொல்லும் காரணத்தை ஒருவர் நம்பி ஏற்றக் கொள்ளவேண்டும்.
10.அம்மாவின் சமையல் பக்குவத்தை எதிர்பார்த்து மனைவியின் சமையலை சாப்பிட்டு, ஏமாற்றம் என்றதும் அவளை திட்டக் கூடாது. அப்படி திட்டுவேன் தான் என்றால் அதற்கு முன் ஒன்றை யோசியுங்கள். திருமணம் ஆன புதிதில் உங்க அம்மாவும் இப்படித் தான் உங்க அப்பாவிடம் திட்டு வாங்கி இருப்பார்கள் சமையலுக்காக.பக்குவம் பார்த்ததும் வந்து விடக்கூடியதல்ல.பல வருட அனுபவத்தில் வருவது.
நரகமாய் இருக்கும் வீடு சொர்க்கம் ஆவதும், சொர்க்கமாய் இருந்த வீடு நரகம் ஆவதும் கணவன் மனைவி நடந்து கொள்ளும் விதத்தில் தான் இருக்கிறது
Im back again with another more funny problem this time. My daughter startet to show interest in food by the age of 4 months. I managed to ignore it until she turned 5 months. The soon she hit 5 month mark she managed to grab one of my nectarine peaces and startet to suck on it. I was surprised and concernd that it might cause tummy pain, digestive problems or nappy rash but nothing.. she just kept on enjoying her nectarines...i thought maybe because i used to let her smell on them as we eat them a lot and hubby fed me with them during pregancy. But short after she startet to develope interest in all other sort of foods. I can not keep her on lap while im eating anymore as she would steel food from my table and out of my hand.
She looks at me like iam the worst mom because i refused to share my rassam, curd rice with curd chilies and chicken curry with her.. i once dipped my finger a bit in the chicken curry sauce to let her taste as i thought she would stop being interested as its hot! The opposite happend!!! She kept on grabbing my finger thinking she can suckle more chicken curry out of it 
Another time i was chopping onions for cooking and hubby hold her. She wanted the onions badly so i told him to let her smell on them as i was drop dead sure it would make her stop complaining. She tried to grab it out of his hands! I told him maybe you just let her lick one time? She will hate it surely!..... guess what happend... she tried to chew it and loved the taste.. got angry when we took it away from her again
I tried to introduce mashed foods to her. She looks at me most of the time like im mad... i tried to hide her mashy baby food behind my plate to pretent we eat the same.. i choosed same colours of her and my food.. nothing works.. this kid is just too smart for me. She eats some fruit mashes but most of the veggies she hates mashed.
I give her since she is 5 months old a growing variety of foods cut into grabbable peaces she can hold the list includes:
i was trying carrot mash and she hates it. Same with rice porridge.. she thought im nuts. Tried apple sauce - its ok but pure fresh apple is better she thinks. Tried yellow moong dal water - same you´re nuts face... she wanted my dal tadka.. i didnt share (bad mom). Couldnt get ragi so didnt try. Wanted to try veggy kichadi but really insecure now...
Now my questions are:
Anyone facing a food stealing im a big girl so dont treat me like a baby infant??????
Which finger foods can i give to her?
How to cook so we can eat the same? And i mean in daily routine... i know i haveto spice down but im insecure how much and for how long... i cannot make hubby and me live next couple of months totally without spices and are unable to stop her wanting our food.. i feel a bit like trapped.
Tried to eat together with her and pretent we eat same. Tried to not eat in front of her anymore (feel thats no long term solution). tried to give her parts of my food (like rice with ghee without the rest or just some roti). but then i still have to make sure she eats her veggies and fruits.
Anyone knows any recipes to introduce solids to a food lover like her?
We are planning to relocate to Philidelphia and need your advice:
We are family of 2 adults and 1 child 5 years old. Mostly after 6 months I will look for jobs. My working around Wayne.
1. How much is the monthly expense:Range
Rent-
Kid day care-
School fees-
Food-
Car -
2.Which Areas are good to stay ?Is it always we have to share the laundry facilities?
We heard about KOP, Wayne,
Any more to add to the list?
3.What are the common ways to commute in absence of car. Did you know driving before or did your learn there?
Thanks for all your help and advice.
