MY SIL--PLease help Me.

Really Sorry for such a long post.

Background:

Ours is a Love Marriage. My husband is having a elder Sis and settled in Singapore.

Her only son(5yrs oly) is left india with my PIL reason being,she is working and cant take care of the baby properly.

We are staying in a different state with our 1 yr DD. No help. DD is in day care.

Both of us are working in IT-no definite timing job. i took my DD with me when she was 2 months old, we had a house maid to take care of her till 2 months back.

PILS:

FIL is gentleman and helped our love marriage a success story. so who ever does wrong he expects me to adjust cos he has did a great favour for me.

basically to avoid the hassles he can convinence oly me.his DD and DW have voice over him.

MIL is a lady who will be good to me when her DD is abroad.the day she comes India, she ll become a different personality(some times i too doubt whether she s suffering from multiple personality disorder)

When her DD is here in india, her toungue will become sword on me,jus to hide her DD's negatives over my positives.

SIL:

Thinks she s the best in everything and advices everyone around her,has very big mouth.

very jeleous on me,she don like me and hubby together and both of us being like friends. Main reason is her hubby is very reserved and nodes his head for what ever she says.

She will use all possible ways to insult me with sugar coated words.

Some Scenarios which i am not able to forget:

1.Before our marriage she created a drama to stop our marriage(if i tell the story then there will be no space for the rest of the problem)

2.for her birthday, which is 2 days before our 1st christmas after marriage, we bought her a saree and dresses for everyone.she saw her saree and didnt even touched it saying these is no much work and she cant take it,

her DS dress also she told he dont like jean cloth,he is used to cotton and banian colths and didnt see.

since she did this, My MIL didnt wear her saree saying her DD is unhappy.actually they should get dress for us on that day.instead she took my chudi and told get something like this and send it to me.

3.She advised me to wait for getting pregnent since her bro is jus 25 when married. we waited for 1 yr and got preg.when in told her the news through phone she didnt even congradulated and changed the topic.

4 she didnt come to see my DD till she was 8 months. and she came for her SIL's house warming all the way from singapore.

tat time also we were asked to come to PILS house(15hrs journey) with my small babby in train.she didnt come.

5.we bought a new house, for that also noone from DH's side came for seeing , my FIL also was not allowed since we bought house before her.

6.due to that travel my DD was very sick,for that also they scolded me that i m not taking care of my DD properly.she was with us for 1 hr oly and all the 3 days when we were there she was visiting her relatives house.

and my DD got ok oly after 2 months due to this long travel.

7.she was giving things she bought for everyone infornt of me but not even a hair clip for me. i usually dont expect anything from her. but infront of others i felt very bad.

8.when she was there my MIL didnt took my DD,she was doing everything for SIL's son oly.when my DD pooed, she asked me to put her in pampers or in old mat.i was like dying all the 3 days.

9.full night DD was crying and i also didnt sleep, after doing all the work i went to sleep when DD was sleeping,MIL told,she ll be always sleeping like this oly, so oly baby is always sick.

10. MIL will tell, my dd is working and suffering a lot, if a couple staying alone is suffering means how can i being alone taking care of a small baby can sleep and enyoy without even a maid to help.

11. after 10 days SIL is badmouth about her own mother to neigbours and creat probs, that time i ll become good DIL to my MIL.

12.when some relatives came and i was asked to bring coffee for them,they were impressed with my speach and the way i treated them, they told your daugher is very good girl.suddenly my MIL told she s not my DD, my DD will be very fair.this is my DIL. i was like lost with this response.

there are lot more she has done to me which is like a scar mark on my heart.

now her visa got over and she was literlly throwed out of the country,came back all on a sudden.

now again the same drama is happeneing, we are asked to come to meet her there.

last time we went for christmas and from then onwards my DD is getting sick often and we dint travel anywer.

My MIL came before 1 yr for house warming and till now she didnt come her reason being she s having knee pain, but she s travelling around.

My FIL is also not allowed to come,if i call him and speak a big drama will happen telling he joined with DIL and dancing to her tune.

My prob:

Actually my husband knows everything and was supporting me till now.

I told MIL,FIL,SIL are free sitting in home oly, they didnt come also, SIL DS also love to be in our place cos of beach and zoo.

let them come here and spend some time with DD.IF we travel, we need to start by friday, reach on saturday,return on sunday, monday again to office.

DD to day care.surely she ll get sick again.

this time he is behaving very hard with me saying we need to got meet her, while coming back she told she will come with us.

wats the use travelling so long jus to bring her.single train they can come and we can book their tickets.

I have no other convern other than my DD. yes,they ll insult and make me do hell lot of things.He is giving silent treatment, didnt spoke with me from yesterday.

I know as soon as she reach her, my family will become 2 parts.

PLease gimme strength and advice to handle this. I dont want to travel with my DD.

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