How to solve my problem with DH and MIL :(

hi all,

I have seen so many MIL problems that I thought its a forum to get some suggestions to solve my problem as well :)

Well, to start off I am married for almost 8 years now. And from day 1 of my arranged marriage, my MIL has been having issues with me. She has problems with everything my dress, my cooking, my face, my walking style, my dress, my bindi.. (yes you read it right :) ) She has been criticizing me day in day out. And it reaches to heights if me and my DH go out without her and come back. She will pick one small problem and criticize and use such bad words till I lose my patience and shout back. Then she goes crying to DH saying I am arrogant, impatient, doest respect etc.. I have had 3 miscarriages and with god's grace now have a daughter. She ensures my husband and me doesnt go out at all (not even to shops near by). DH wants to avoid any sort of shouting at home and will not even sit near me before her. Wont talk to me before her, ask me for anything. For all purposes, I am invisible when my MIL is around. Only talking happens over phone. My SIL will keep advising MIL about how to handle a working arrogant DIL.

Well, last year my dear SIL came home for a longg stay to enjoy her vacation. And not sure what happened, the day she went out for some shopping, my MIL started accusing me of changing her Darling Son, how I use my daughter to take her Son into my hands etc etc. I totally lost it.. my DH wouldnt even help me for the fear of her mom and here she was accusing me. So, i told her thats it all her imagination and her Son is sooo well brought up that he will not help his wife. On hearing this, she started beating me up saying I am talking back to her. I couldnt take it anymore. Enough is enough I thought and to make a long story short, I asked my husband to keep me away. My MIL did the drama of running away from house (to her sister) saying she cant stay with me and I also told my DH that beating is too much and doesnt want to stay with his mom anymore.

Now, I stay alone with my daughter in adjacent house of my MIL. My DH stays with MIL. But he comes to my house for lunch and dinner and goes back to sleep with his mom. Over weekends, he has been asked to stay with his mom as she wants to see her darling son eat GOOD FOOD atleast over weekends. My MIL has been filling his ear against me ever since and my DH hasnt even been in talking terms with me for past 3 - 4 months now. He just plays with my daughter and takes her to my MIL. We just communicate if there is anything urgent for our daughter. My MIL recently abused me with all the bad words ensuring I hear it in my house. When my husband came to my house, I asked me what is happening since it was so very abusive. My DH started saying that he cant take it any more from both sides because his mom is saying that he has become a hen pecked husband allowing me to stay in different house. And now I have become this specimen shouting at him for SILLY things. He said his mom is going to say stuff like this and it was I who wanted to stay away. Now that I have got what I want, I should ignore all these. After hearing this, I have totally lost it.

Dear ladies, I seriously dont know where my life is heading to. I am an extremely positive person but still I wonder whats there in life ahead.. I dont know how to handle this and how to win my hubby back. Please help..

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