Not able to decide to join Hubby or not? SIL very very snobbish.

Hai Ladies,

Its been very long since I posted here, though I am a regular visitor to this site, it has helped me immensely during my troubled days.

I have had my share of problems for the last 15 years from my in laws and two older SIL's (creating problems from a distance) and all came to an abrupt end with the death of my MIL ( don't take it other wise Ladies I am just being honest and practical here) SIL's slowly cut down the calls to their dear brother and FIL turned out to be very adjusting and more over half the time he spends his days with his daughters and grandchildren (daughters children) and even with us he is not a problem any more.

So my life with my hubby and daughter is extremely good and peaceful, occasional calls from SIL is only to hubby and wishes for birthdays /anniversaries are exchanged when he hands over the phone to me, I don't enquire about them nor they want to know about me.. as far as they don't disturb my family, I am happy.

Now a new problem has raised...

My Second SIL's Son did his MS in UK and is also working there for almost 3 years, he fell in love with a Poland girl and was very adamant in getting married to her, lot's of drama's happened between him and his parents which hubby would tell me and I would listen without any comments, finally his parents gave in and agreed for the marriage on a condition that it should a Hindu wedding in Pune and Christian wedding in Poland followed by reception in London (where the Bride and groom are settled).

Now coming to the inviting part, SIL called my hubby two months back and is forcing him to come to Poland and London saying she will sponsor his trip as she is doing it to all her immediate relatives, that is her siblings and her hubby;s siblings. DH's nephew (groom) personally called his Mama (DH) and said he will very happy to have his Uncle in all the functions...

Yesterday SIL called surprisingly to my mobile and told about her Son's wedding which is in a couple of months in Pune and invited for all the wedding and pre wedding functions and just told me about the Reception and wedding in Poland and London but even for courtesy's sake to din't invite me. She also mentioned that she wants to buy me a saree and my DD a dress, she was trying to be nice and even me thanked her from my side. In reality she doesn't like me at all, it's mostly because of my MIL's bad mouthing.. any ways its a thing of the past now.

Now my DH is proposing that me and my DD join them for the foreign trip which I am not at all interested, according to him my DD will just finish her Sem Exam and the dates and everything else is favourable this will be a nice holiday.

But the fact is , I am not invited in the first place, secondly I will be miserably ignored or even insulted by my two SIL's, hubby's nephew though knows me very well din't care to personally call me to invite me. DH says he will spend for everything including his tickets and will decline her offer for his ticket, he is looking for places around Poland which means once we attend the wedding we can go on our own. Any amount of reasoning with him is going to deaf ears, he is very angry with me and giving me a silent treatment.

My thought is spending so much of money we can take a different holiday with out any hassles of these weddings and relatives. But DH doesnt agree or trying to understand, how ever DD is very excited.

Pour your thoughts and suggestions friends.

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Not able to decide to join Hubby or not? SIL very very snobbish.