Married life is a disappoitment

This forum is excellent, and I have been following this forum for quite some time.

And here I am with my set of problems. I am Married in 2012, and now with a daughter residing in US. myself career oriented and very straight forward. Married to a person who is also very much career oriented. H has lost his father in 2008, and after that he took care of the responsibility of marriages of both of his sisters.

2013, his youngest sister is married and we did kanyadanam. We dint go for honeymoon, or any other places after getting married. I have dealt with his sisters and mother manipulative behavior, when he left me in India, to join his job in US. I don't talk to his sisters at all, and to his mother once in a while.

To tell about H behavior,

1. He absolutely has no control over his senses, when we go to restaurants, social gatherings he simply stares at other women, which totally embarrass me. I feel like I am a loser.

2. After I came to US, I saw his text messages to lady of another country, back and fourth counting hundreds of messages exchanges in just two days. We had a big fight over this, and he told he was frustrated as I was not with him and we have huge fights because of his sisters and mom behavior.

4. He showed so much care and love that I was totally fallen for him. I couldn't understand that it was a trap. The scenario changed after I got pregnant. and was able to understand his total behavior. He started ignoring me and taken me for granted during the pregnancy. I was looking for his support and love, needless to say I was completely disappointed. Hormones imbalance, gestational diabetes and 9 months nausea has made me go down completely.

3. My mother came for delivery 2014, he simply insulted me and mother and asked us to get out of the house, I was in shock and left with no words in front of my mother. This is biggest hit to my self respect. I cant get over it and cant forget that.

3. My mother was here almost 2 months, and these 2 months his mom sisters called me frequently to know what is happening at home. They are settled in US. They never called me before my mom came to US. Me and mom felt like we both are being monitored by him and his family.

4. Its been 3 months of my delivery, I have been beaten by him, four times during these 3 months. Two days back we had a fight, and he beat me again, and this time I had given him one nice tight slap with my sandals. I called to India, said about his behavior.

We don't go for shopping, movies, or even have our food together. He simply says that he cannot change his schedule because of me. We are sleeping in different bed rooms from the day of my delivery. He says that he cannot his sleep disturbed because of baby cries and feeding time.

I caught him watching porn during my pregnancy. He took advantage of my helplessness during the pregnancy and forced me to make my salary account as a joint account.

I am done with his behavior, and I don't trust him at all. Its just 3 years that I am married, and I regret of being pregnant and punishing my child in this kind of marriage. I have decided to get separate and get back to India, and I am still waiting for my child Indian visa.

please suggest me what should I do. I am currently not doing any job, but i have work authorization based on his dependent visa. He many times insulted me and my mother because of him we both are able to see US and I have been able to work in US. I will return to India and come back to this country on my own status. I am 32, and my child is just 3 months old.

Requesting for your suggestions.

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Married life is a disappoitment