Getting Married - Needing Positive Advice

Hi Ladies ,

Very happy to meet you all through Indus Ladies . I am from Chennai , working in IT company . Good pay great life . But I am entering into a very important stage of my life... Marriage!!!

Yes I am getting married on Dec 10th , 2014 and it is a love cum arranged one . My guy is from Salem and I did study till college and then migrated to Chennai though my birth place is Chennai . All relatives are here in Chennai and my mom as well . Ours is seven years luv story . We both met in college and fell in love on eavh other and till now the journey continues ...

He was also working on IT and this month only he quit his job and went to his hometown to look after his father's business since his dad passed away last year . They have a very reputed and high yielding business which has good scope and he could not close it and work here for monthy salary since they have good returns on business itself .. About my guy , he is a very cool and caring guy. Very nice person who takes care of me , my mom till date with whole heart .

About me , I am running my family since 3 years since my sweet awesome dad had passed away in 2011 . I miss him each and every moment . I have been responsible , independent , bread winner of my family and single earning person in my family which consists of me , mom and grand dad .

Now the problem within me is coming to the picture

We really strived a lot when both of our dads passed away and luckily without any big issues , our super cool moms have agreed to our wedding ..Yes , I am very happy about it . But only now I do see many issues which are not at all a problem for anyone even for my mom , my guy & my MIL . I am a brahmin - Iyengar and a pure core vegetarian and he is a non vegetarian , not a brahmin . So MIL has asked my guy to construct a seperate kitchen in the first floor of our house and all vessels will be mine which will be taken by me . She is so adjustiing and give importance to my feel and so is my guy .

But sometimes few things hurt me so much and I suddenly feel like calling off or something like that

1. FIrst & Foremost , I cant even think of my kids eating non veg food

2. They speak kannada but their tamil is common tamil ( obviously not brahmin tamil ) but sometimes that slang irritates me I often insist him to talk in our slang . I know it's really bad but I feel great if he talks like me .

3. I really dont want my kids to talk in tamil at all . O/w they will be treated in a diff way amidst my amma side people and their kids .

4.I need to quit my job and have to settle down over there and should leave city life and IT world . My MIL and my guy have given me full freedom to take the business or to start any new business or even to work there but I don know how much I could accustom over there .

I know how bad my thinkings are but I don't know the way to take these easily. My mom , sister and all are like super cool and they dont even worry about all these . Infact they like my guy so much .

These many years I never felt like this but as soon as my wedding got fixed , I really started to think abt these differences and all .. Ladies , Please gimme positive advice and help me to change my attitude . I had even discussed about these to him and he is really giving me advice about the practicality . I know I am gifted to get him but something strikes me very bad . Help ladies

Getting Married - Needing Positive Advice