I am married for 4.5 yrs now with 2.5 yrs kid. Ours was love marriage and we both loved each other a lot. Before marriage we dated for 2 yrs and then married. All was going well and good enough ..DH dont have habit of using much FB or any other social sites..just go through it once in a while..even i update ours and his pictures in his fb page.. he doesnt even do that. He has many friends - girls & boys but friendly with both.. never looks at any girl in a wrong way..but sometimes if a very beautiful girl comes across he may take a look but thats ok he is also a human.
Now here is my Story...
2.5 yrs back when i was pregnant..I had some complications in my pregnancy and we could be intimate from my 2nd month as doctor instructed not to..even my hubby was very caring and restricted those things. But as days past and i was in my 4th month of pregnancy i started noticing that he is staying long time on pc..when i checked history next day..he was downloading porn n watching, when i questioned him he says he was feeling so he did n will not repeat...yet it was repeated many times, and i tried to ignore it understanding his frustration on this matter. Actually i was also feeling lonely and frustrated due to this, even i wanted to be intimate but as doctor advice couldn't.
After my 7 months i went India to my parents for delivery..at that my dont know what happened to me and i was loosing my mental balance and always used to think i want to snoop my DH or just for fun. May be because of hormonal changes happening in my body.
I planned and created new fb profile with another name..with beautiful profile pic or some young lady..send friendship req. to my dh - i just wanted to see how he will be chatting with this lady.
He came online for chat and we started chatting(fake profile & DH)
I said that i am born n brought up in California ..now in India as my parents shifted n all ..faking
DH also wrote some stuff about himself..but for my shock all fake ..
he said he is from good rich family.. actually he is middle class. He said he is married (because his fb profile..stated that) but didnt say he is going to be a father.
When i asked about his wife..DH started telling she is very lazy and full time praying and all, not giving him attention, his was arrange marriage through his mom and he was not happy with his marriage, all wrong things about me..
Later after few days.. he said i am coming india.. (actually he was planning to come for my delivery).. we could meet up in goa for short vacation and have lots of fun.. (this was real shocking for me)
Then he started talking about sex with her ..as in what position she likes etc.
(At that moment i couldnt handle my self).
I called him right moment and busted at him and said all that the lady was none other than me..He was shocked and upset and started apologizing and crying ..
His excuses...
1. I thought it was my some male friend pranking with me so i said all this..
2. I was not serious just joking ..do u think i will meet her for real...
3. She was a unknown person for me so chatted all this without thinking
4. last but not least..of course..he says he knew that it was me..and was checking how i will react.
I didn't talk to him for days ..my mom knew about it too..hence as advised by my mom and continuous apologizes from my dh i forgive him..
But after this incident i am not able to trust him at all. I always think about it check his fb and whats app...He went to some foreign countries with his college friends for vacation..even those times sitting at home i used to think is he sleeping with other women or one night stand as in those countries it is available easily..
But one thing.. he is very caring and loving..after that not cought or found any girls chatting with him or any such issues. But, Pleas help me how can i trust him again. all these things keep on going in my mind. I think may be he is hiding many things from me ..he is good looking and still young..I go mad sometimes..Please help
Need Advices...On snooping my hubby 2 years 3 yrs back..
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