I am new here. Married, age 36. I was born in the US and am married to an Indian man for the last almost 13 years. We have a 3 year old son. My husbands' parents are in India. My brother is getting married next month in the US. So my husband is going to visit his parents in India, and my parents adecided to send $1000 to his parents and $500 to his sis for my brothers' wedding "shagan." I need to say their relationship with each is not great. It's a forced cordial relationship between the inlaws because honestly, my parents are at fault. They have been awful to both my husband and my inlaws for years with indirect comments, drama etc etc. And they also think that if they give people enouigh money, they will get respect. Problem from my inlaws is they will take the guft/money, but not anything comparable back to them. So that makes me mad. Now sending THAT much for the shagan seems absurd to me. Also because I KNOW my inlaws wont send much back to my brother for wedding so that hurts me. My inlaws are very generous and loving with me, but not with my family. So I guess my question is, is it a norm in India to give inlaws for girls brother's wedding? And secondly then do the inlaws give something big back for wedding? I talked my parents down to $500 (30,000 rupees) for inlaws and $300 for his sis (18000 rupees). Makes more sense to me. My inlaws wont even care honestly. And they are in two different countries so not like they are coming for wedding. Just bnad luck, my husband going RIGHT before my bro's wedding so all this comes up. Please advise...
Do parents send money to inlaws for MY brother's wedding?
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