congratulations on being mother of two, its good to be a referee. :)
i can understand your situation as i am mother of two 5.5 yrs old son and 8 months old daughter. i was under same problem how to make my son understand that she is a baby and not teddy. yes it took time but things are better now. i wont say he completely understands this but his behavior is improved.
what i did was that i made him the responsible person to take care for the younger one. i will hold the daughter and at the same time tell my son that he is good brother as he is taking care of HIS sister so well and he is not disturbing her at all. What i have observed is, that my son loves and wants to play with her sister. i try to explain him that she will play when she will turn 12 months. he is counting days now.
please dont scold your son, he may take if too seriously and may feel unhappy for his brother. instead when you are feeding you may allow your son to hold younger ones hands and feel they are like his own hands. allow the interaction and make him feel that the baby is just like him.
you may talk to your elder son while taking care of the younger one. keep chatting, i am sure he will feel that he is also important. you can quote that how you raised him in this manner. let him co-relate the facts with himself.
your DH or parents can spend some time with son also, this will also help.
Dont miss any chance to make him feel special, he will soon take the responsibility of younger one.
after 8 months, now i can leave my kids alone for few minutes in same room, ofcourse on the floor in a properly cushioned arrangement. He feels pride in the fact that he managed her well.
things will improve dont worry.
take care
Managing toddler and newborn
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