When i am writing this i am literally crying :( :(
Really i don know how to handle MIL and H.. please help me!!!!! i really want a shoulder to cry..
Again MIL started with tantrums.. i seriously hope either i should escape from these tantrums or some how die... but the thought of my son 1 yr old stops me from further thinking to die...but how do i cope with them???
Really ladies, is there some trick or some strategy that u follow to stay happy in a joint family??or atleast tell me a strategy to make my H feel good about me and think iam not wrong in my thought / deeds... please help me!!!
Scenario: for the past 1 month now, MIL,FIL have totally cut their talking to me.. we stay together.. I really don know the reason for that. but MIL makes sure that if anything has to be done by me she is very clever to get it conveyed to me either thru my H/co-sis/co-sis's daughter... or any1 is not present, then she turns her face to other side and tells me what should be done.. like today u cook n cook this...
but today she mannipulated my H to yell at me. for the past month i had been trying very hard to be super nice to my H inspite of his constant support to his parents words n hurting me every now n then whenever his mom says that look she did this...then immediately he would ask me why u did this that too in a very harsh way :'( I really dont know what to do to make my H understand that whatever iam doing its because they did somethiing and iam trying to give them back..
just answer me one thing, is it right if they do something to hurt me ??? or is it right only if they can hurt me and i can t give them back atleast a lil bit of it??? y should i bear their hurtings????? y should i not give back???? am i wrong if i do that??
current fight: today morning they had arranged for a puja for my co-sis's daughter.. I came to know about this only day before yesterday..that too no one informed me.. I had to know it thru their talkings while they were talking within themselves.. so i had decided that if only they inform me then iam going to participate in this puja and help in preparing dishes for puja.. so they didnt care to inform me so i din help them.. today morning i got up and did chores related to my baby only.because they had cooked already and were gearing up for puja and as puja started i went to my room and sat there near my sleeping son..
MIL sent my H to ask me y i din come for puja.. he asked me in a harsh way :(
I replied they din inform me anout this and called u only for puja. so they dont want me and thats y i din come.. he got furious saying they take care of baby when iam at office and he even said that i don do any household work and this and that.. i tried defending myself saying i did all but nothing he was ready to hear..he told if u behave like this then i will behave in this way to u (harsh way),because i had asked him y u behave so harsh with me..MIL utilised this oppurtnity well, she started saying all bad things about me to him and started being overly nice to him and he ended up saying dont talk to me n dont touch me(when i triede to hold his hand and ask him y r u behaving like this?) he evenused some bad words to me :'( reeally heart breaking..
i tried calling him from my office, but still he was like u r worng since the day u came to this house after marriage.. u don do any household work..i have seen u in this 2.5 yr of marriage u have never changed.. u always behave as u wish .. u don listen to MIL.. u try to escape from work..u don do any work for house..ur like this so i have decided to be like this only with u and when i get a chance i will take revenge on u.. n wen its time for u that time i wont support u and instead i myself will go n tell MIL,FIL,BIL,Co-sis to not be near ur side..
these words r haunting me.. im in office now.. since morning i m not able to work anything.. thinkng all sorts of possibilities to make my H be nice with me...
since morning in my office, whom ever i see i feel that their life is happy and their relationship with their H is nice n they love each other n they stand for each other... but my H is not there for me : ( : ( :( he does not stand for me :( he instead yells at me,scolds me, abuses me,does not love me,hates me,wants me to go back to my moms place....
y is my H not nice to me?????
how can I make him be nice to me???
how can i escape from this hell of a place of this inlaws????????????????
Not a supportive H and suffering with MIL :(
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