bil getting married, how to maintain relation with co sis, when mil is manipulative.

Hi ladies

My bil has publicized his relation with his college friend. It has not been finalized by the family but sooner or later its gonna be. my dh, mil knows about his relation.

I got a bit anxious... can not share my feelings with anyone.

MIL and bil never calls me, but also never looses any chance to bitch. My dh is insecure and he is in a mindset that i tries to show my ils inferior. actually opposite is true but dh being a guilt ridden guy(not able to serve his very innocent and kind mom ) never sees her true colors. Many times my mil got exposed but still My hubby shouted on me. Now my ils think that i am the worst girl in this universe and they dont talk. I have never disrespected my elders, whatever they say i never back reply.

I live separately with my dh, and at our place we dont discuss about ils and my life is peaceful.

In past ils converted my life to hell... some of their preachings- bil to dh(just after a month of wedding): wife ko dabba k rakhna 1 saal, nahi to sir pe chad jayegi, agar zyada bole to 4 laga na kaan k neeche,

(when i started my medical equivalency)kyun jee raha hai us k sath, doc bante hi tujhe chor k bhaag jayegi.

My mil: agar ache se behave na kare to papa ko bat dena, agle hi din divorce ready kara denge.

if by chance they call my dh and m around they would politically ask my dh to call them from office, and they make this obvious to me.

MIL always enquires about me from dh and then uses the information aganst me, she is very manipulative.

I feel pissed off... because of their politics.

Dh supports me a lot in profession but this is an issue which remains in our mind and we fell in arguments.

My ils ll visit us in february for 1 month, i hv applied for voluntary work during that time. this ll be the first time when i ll be staying with ils for a month continuously.

Need advice on this as my dh cahnges his attitude in front of his family, he taunts every single minute and stop any talks with me.. i dont know why he do this.

Today i get to know from a public site that my bil is in relationship with his college friend, none from the family told me.

i asked my dh and he confirmed.

my dh also told me tht his mom wants to gift 5 diamond sets to her younger dil..(she wanted to show that she gave 1 to me and is showering 5 for her younger one) mil also commented that her younger dil is from a very rich family and her taste of clothings is very rich as compared to her elder one. Girl also looks very showoff type, her latest profile pic has this caption" flaunting my 5 very classy tanishq diamond rings", whatever i should not be judgemental.

I am actually very confused how should i react on differnt wedding functions, and after her wedding... my ils will definitely try to show her superiority over me.

And due to constant politics from ils i have lost my self confidence. I have mixed feelings. How should i behave.

Please help me ladies, i need your advices, suggestions and experiences with your cosis when mil politicize the simple things. I dont wnat to strain my relation anymore, with any of ils.

Thanks for your patience

bil getting married, how to maintain relation with co sis, when mil is manipulative.