Current situation: I am a working mom, I live with my fil, dh and dd. my mil died 2 yrs back (wish she was around). My family lives in the same area, but their support is limited too. And as most grandparents my parents are pretty lethargic about safety measures of my kid.
There were so many instances were my parents treated him differently where he felt he was not respected like a son-in-law should be, thou we got married with complete acceptance of both the families(love n arranged marriage).
Recently my dh has changed way too much. he wants to be respected, he wants me to listen to everything he says. he feels he is not being treated right. All the anger that he has for my parents is directed on me. He says I deserve to be treated this way... since my parents have done the same to him. When there were repeated issues I kept my mom's side away from our house. But I got no support from his end to take care of my kid while im cooking or in office. He feels he is doing the job of a women. Even one day if I am at work he accepts initially to take care of dd, but then when it gets tough right he starts screaming at me and about me being inefficient.
Flaws about me: I am not a very traditional person, I do not wake up very early - 7am sorts..I do have issues in maintaining the house and I am not a great cook.
I am a full time software programmer who loves her job. But after DD was born I have started changing things for her.. just like any other mom.
Please note, It is important that I go to work under my financial circumstances.
But since there is not support from anyone, I am feeling so insecure. What should I do now? Should i continue staying with my dh, since he is a good father and loves my dd. accept all his abuses from time to time? What is the right way?
Whats the right thing to do now?
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