tired of mil's cheap tricks :(

My mil goes for walk at times. Often when she comes back it is time for my dh to come back from office. One thing happened in this for many days. I didn’t get to know this until recently cos dh didn’t tell me anything the first few days.

She, after coming back won’t get into the house and wait outside the gate and meet up with dh and get in together. If dh asks why standing in the gate? Instead of saying to meet him she said because she knocked and I dint open. In reality I never heard any knocking or door bell whatsoever and ours is not a BIG house that it can’t be heard from a far corner. I used to see both of them coming together but never thought there can be any politics even behind that.

Last week when the same thing happened for 4^th/5^th time, dh got irritated and the moment I opened the door, told me ‘how come you never get to hear mom’s knocking? she has been standing outside for long everyday”. I had the shock of my life. “standing? Outside? What do you mean? Why?” MIL looked visibly happy. I confronted her ‘why didn’t you ring the door bell?’ Her answer was ‘how can I? won’t it wake the kids up? That is out of question’. I was so surprised as kids very rarely sleep in the evening. They either play in the park outside or indoor. Still I said “in that case you could have called me in mobile(she carried her mobile with her)” To that her reaction was one of very disdainful dismissal and topped it up with a saintly ‘its ok, not a problem for me to stand outside for some time when you are busy, you will open the door when sonny comes anyway’ and the icing on the cake was asking her son to give her some water as she is feeling delirious from standing so long.

The entire scene was so well set up that I didn’t have anything to say and felt so very bad from within that didn’t feel like explaining things to dh as well, who i know, has tried form his side to ignore it earlier and not blame me. I fear with such people around, God only knows what kind of misunderstanding will this lady create between us and to what extent will that damage my life. But i am really tired of making things clear to him. Though i know, he tries to understand my position and is not blind towards his mom at least not always, but i some how just lost the energy to drag it. I am fed up.

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tired of mil's cheap tricks :(