adjustment with husband going overboard?

Hi ladies,

I am regular follower of the indusladies..

am in deep dilemma..

mine is love marriage, fought for years to make the parents convinced and finally got married few years back.. we were friends first.. i am having a few issues with him. first is possessiveness about him.. may be a bit more than normal.. i dont like seeing him close to other ladies.. friendly way is tolerable by me, but more than formal talk, he pulls their leg, teasing, showing extra concern..then my mind grows suspicious.. sometimes i wish to see read what is on his mind.. i have good male friends, but i never cross the line of friendship. few days back we had a huge fight over this matter and it almost ended our relationship.. but i got adjusted telling myself that i am imagining too much and his sorry made me silent.

he doesnt tell me anything about his female colleagues or friends from then. i get to find out later from those female friends of his, what they have been upto and i get very irritated that why did he hide from me, when there is nothing wrong in his mind abt them

second is- he wantedly asks me about any decisions to be made for family, but never respects that decision.. he usually decides that and asks me nominally, just for the sake of it. he used to be very respectful of my views and opinions before marriage, when we were just frnds and lovers.. now he looks me very down and cheap.. i have no say in whatsoever matters.. am feeling very bad and sad... am very depressed and often the thought of ending my life comes for what i have done with my life.. did i fight with my parents for him, to get this kind of life and treatment.. and he has two different personalities.. when he is loving to me, even a small sneeze worries him, but when he is angry, even if i go and jump off the cliff, he doesnt feel a pinch.. am not sure what made him like this.. is it me and my over loving nature of mine made him not care for me? sometimes i feel him like he is a stubborn child who throws tantrums no matter how much ever u punish the kid.. how should i deal with him?

am i getting over adjusted with him, just for the sake of society and bad name in relatives? i want to tell his mom, how his son is treating me, but you ladies know how mothers of husbands are- they moslty favor their sons no matter how much right you are..cant tell and vent out with my mom, she would say you chose life with him and now in this stage i cant take that backwords frm her..its not that we dont love each other, we have a very good days when all is happy and joyful, all i expect is atleast that 1% of love even when we have fights, instead of treating me like stranger..

do any of you have any suggestions or tips on what should i do to gain peace of mind??

sharvani

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