A very frustrated wife

Hi Ladies,

I came here after a long thought. I don't know if it is appropriate to share about husband and family but I am getting stressed a lot.

Here is my story. It was an arranged marriage and we are married for 14 months. I was working in a very good company in a nice role before marriage in India. I was very much satisfied and happy with my life. Modern and independent girl and I am good looking too. I fell in love with my DH in our first meeting and of course the meeting was arranged by our parents. We both look perfect for each other and he showered me with gifts, flowers, love before marriage.

I moved to London after marriage and had to quit my job too.

Once we started to live together I started to understand about him more. His definition for love is different. It is marriage with no strings attached. He doesn't want to spend more money for house expenses and won't help me in any of house hold chores. He doesn't want to have even baby because he can't share any baby work and he already said I should take care completely. He expects me to do all house work including managing all shopping and bills. He won't even drop or pick me up in his car if I have to go somewhere.

I found a job here within few months and I travel by bus and train. he never dropped me on a single day.

My in-laws visited here for two months and those two months were like a hell. He never spoke to me normally and always talk to his parents and go out with them for walk or shopping leaving me alone. He enjoy watching tv with them till 11pm and by that I will be very tired and we both just sleep.

My heart started aching for some love and attention. there are so many times I felt like ending my life since I dont have courage to go back to my parents. I dont like living a life like this without any love and care. What am I in this house? am nothing just a like a table or chair. My MIL and FIL are not happy about me because they are very very orthodox and am modern. They wanted me to do 3 times cooking and too much of demands. I couldnt satisfy because of my long walk and travel to office. I really dont have any strength to wake up at 5 and finish my cooking then leave for office.

The problem now is he wants to go back to India this year and settle there. It is obviously with inlaws as joint family. I already have no interest in life and had enough trouble in two months. My MIL demands me to do all work at home starting from rangoli in the morning till finish dinner at night. No am not that energetic. My husband would not let me be a house wife since he already said he is not offering any free service for me or my future kid. I should also earn enough money for living. I feel very bad why am I living with him? Should I end this marriage or end my life since I dont have any life without my husband.

A very frustrated wife

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