This may be one of the weird cases you have come across.... I had an arranged marriage .... In the first year , we had a lot of fights (bacause of ILs) and hence we were not very close... But even otherwise my husband was not interested in physical intimacy.... Usually i had to initiate ... There has also been a time when he selected watching a religious movie over intimacy .... After that i got pregnant and he used that as a pretext for keeping the distance .... Then we moved abroad ...
Initially i found some disturbing stuff on the laptop .. like he had searched for gay men in our state , had seen gay movies and stuff... i was disturbed by this but when i asked him he got angry and started shouting as to whether iam accusing him of being gay ... After a few days i accidentally opened his mail and found old mails to another guy (and very explicit ones) and also explicit photos of the guys in OUR bedroom ... i confronted him and he broke down and accepted that he was bi-sexual and he had invited the guy over ... but the guy was drunk and they had stripped but he felt guilty of doing this in our room and stopped and nothing else happened(this was final month of my pregnanacy and i was at my mom's place)...
Ever since the confrontation he claims to have stopped all contact with the guy and he does show physical interest in me ... but iam still insecure and i do not know if i made the right choice in staying back... Iam always scared on wheteher he still mails and calls the guy but just deletes the emails and call history???
Iam going nuts ... Can someone suggest any ideas on how to deal with this and how to ensure whether he has really stopped this?
Extremely confused !! Please suggest what to do
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