Please give me tips to handle this

Hello all,

I am married for around 10 years with two beautiful kids. I find my hubby to be more attached to all his friends and relatives. He doesnt inform me about anything. He keeps spending a lot of money and does not take up house responsibility. This leads to fights between us. He then goes into his cave and again does not reveal anything. Though he spends money and time for others,i have noticed that these people do not give him the required amount of time or importance. He tells them everything, whatever is going on at home. but when it comes to thier personal activities, they all hide it from him. This makes me wild and i scold him for revealing everything.... I have tried speaking to him politely but it ultimately leads to fight. he says i dont like to be in touch with anyone. I am basically a quiet person with less friends gang.. this is always pointed out by him and he keeps saying that i dont like to around with people and shuts my mouth... I dont know how to make him understand. All his friends and relatives are settled but he doesnt seem to understand that even he has to save and take up family responsibility. I am not in good terms with my in-laws or his relatives. Basically because they are using him and his money and they themselves do not want his attitude to change so they do not advice him. Please give me tips on how to handle this situation..

Please give me tips to handle this