Am in a slightly tricky situation here, to do with gift giving and protocol etc. I Hate that this is going to sound crass and petty but I don't know how else to put it.
DH and I got married last year. We are both of an age, it's my second time, and so we didn't really follow tradition with the wedding (by that I mean no big ceremony or reception, none of the usual stuff). Our parents know each other (dads more so than the mothers) and all this was with their blessing. Soon after we got married, the MIL expressed her disapproval at DH not receiving any gifts from my folks. I managed to brush it off and we did let them know when my parents gifted a hefty sum of money to us as a wedding gift.
Now. Both sets of parents recently met up and my mum had got MIL a sari. This was met with the usual 'oh you shouldn't have, I never wear them these days', which is partly true, so fair enough. It was followed however, by 'if you want to gift something, get my son something instead'. It sounds to me that she is probably still miffed
For the record, they did get me a simple jewellery set.
This is my problem - we are both financially independent, mature adults. My parents can well afford to get watches or jewellery (I think that's the sort of thing MIL has in mind), and DH neither expects nor wants such stuff (he hasn't got a clue about this btw). I just find it humiliating that the expectation from my parents is still there just because they happen to be the parents of the woman. Plus I don't really want them spending silly money on people when it's not necessary and in their retirement. This is only to make MIL happy, has nothing to do with DH, IMO. I will never understand the sense of entitlement some people have.
Do I:
a) ignore the whole silly episode
b) get something myself for DH and say it's from my folks
c) just let them gift something, it's not that big a deal
Thanks.
In a bit of a dilemma
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