MILS .. I am not sure why God created them.
I dont know if my mil is bad or good or cruel or whatever. But she constantly disturbs my peace of mind.
For everything my parents have done, she does have some comment. Even After 3 yrs of marriage, she criticizes that the dinner in my marriage is bad. Everything my parents bought/did are bad.
She never cares for me (i don't expect it) but get irritated when she shows off that she takes good care of me. She boasts god knows what to her colleagues and they say it seems "What a wonderful woman you are! How great you think about your daughter in law!" My foot! Ok now what has triggered this post, my daughter's first bithday
Right from the day I got pregnant, she finds some way to torture my mental peace. Basically by meddling and micro managing. She tells me almost everything how to do as if I don't know. If I put a list here for all that she did, it would take two to three hours to type. Everything has to happen her way. She wants her say in everything. I reject and she is angry for that and tries to enforce it more again later.
Now, I didnt want to celebrate my DD's first birthday in a grand manner because she gets agitated in crowd. She clings on to me and keeps on crying whenever we go to some parties or so. So i wanted my DD not have this pain and didnt want to celebrate. She asked me why . I said the same reason and she said fine.
Then she called my husband and said it is really troublesome for me to speak with your wife.
DH,the stupid he is, stopped talking with me,sat seriously. He won't tell me anything, wont talk ,won't look at me. After questioning for 2 days, he finally said that his mom said so. I was angry but let it wait for 2 days and called her and asked her quite calmly what have I done. She was so very sweet and said I never did anything. She jsut meant that I am good at convincing (I am a sales manager for some reason ;) ) people and would convince her. I don't believe a word of it because she just invented it as she never expected that I would call and ask her.
Now she wants to do my DDs birthday. No relative of her had seen my daughter so she wants to show her off as if she is some Tajmahal to all her relatives. But she is not responsible for any expenses of the function and she has not even asked our budget. Moreover, every time she calls, she finds some way to tell my parents are bad and I am bad. Not as rich as her (my parents are actually richer than her) not as cultured as her (we have a different notion of what culture means) not as hardworking as her, i was just brought up like an orphan so on and on.
Now she decides what my daughter should wear to the function, who the guests are, the venue, what return gifts we should give - everything! This irks me to no extent. I really don't know how to do things which I want to do because at the end she is my daughter and it is her birthday.
She praises SIL, thats a completely different story. I am a sales manager of a well known corporate company and SIL is teacher. My MIL is telling your SIL wears Sarees to office, learn from her. I said "No, ours is a diffrent environment" she says, you don't know anything, for every festival SIL goes in a saree to her office. The same SIL atttends every famly function in a chudidhar while I go in a saree.
At the end, I know there is no solution for this but just wanted to vent out. Even if I get angry and shout or stay cool and accept, she wins. Just have to live with it. Only thing I want her to stop is to criticize my parents. Fingers crossed that the day comes soon
MIL woes! Banging my head! Give me some tips
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