I am a 42 year old woman married for 18 years. Fairly attractive..friendly, outgoing. My husband is an introvert, workaholic but a decent man, loving father but like most men falls short as a good husband. Now, the problem. He doesnt like me knowing his co-workers - male and female. Everytime there is an official program where the wives are invited, he doesnt take me with him. He always comes up with some excuse...tells them that i am sick, out of town or something. Recently there was a huge party- a family day celebrated in one of the beautiful and expensive and exclusive beach resort...which we can not dream of going otherwise. I was very excited and very much wanted to go. Till the last day, i was telling him about the dress i was going to wear and asking him if i needed to bring anything and generally talking about the outing. The next morning, he woke up my kids and asked them if they wanted to come for the party or stay at home with me. I was like, arent we all going? He said, no, its ok, u stay home and rest..i will take the kids with me. I was soo hurt that i kept quiet and watched them go.

This incident set me thinking, this is not the first time this has happened. Some of the family events, i have not been aware of at all...some others, he had not taken me. I have never met any of his colleagues except by chance in some mall or supermarket. Whenever his colleagues invite us for their homes or parties.. he goes alone or takes the kids along. When i want to invite them home, he says he will entertain them himself in some restaurant...and i need not tire myself.

Is he ashamed of me? What should i do? Please help. thanks