Husband online chatting with old online friends

Hi,

I got to see some of husband's online chatting with one of his online friends(not school/college friends/colleagues). She is an online friend of may be 10+ years. He had made friends with her before we were married and has met her a couple of times(before either of them were married). I know he does chat with her off and on and he knows I don't like it as well. We have had arguments(Serious) regarding this in the past. But he would not stop it, saying "it does not do any harm. She is another friend".

The recent chatting that I saw had messages like "life is boring w/o you", "Need you to boost up my life" "love you" and "really miss u a lot".

Don't know how I should approach this/handle this.

We are expecting our 2nd baby in a few months. I don't know other than the emotional part, from a daily routine perspective if his life has changed much from pre-pregnancy period to now. He does not pitch in anything more/extra in terms of chores from what he used to do. I do the cooking and taking care of the kid. He does not do anything special for me nor does he even accompany me to the doctor visits. Neither do I ask for any. You feel like doing things, you do it; you don't feel like it, I do whatever I can and not complain.

Our previous serious argument about online chatting was during my previous pregnancy/soon after delivery. He had similarly used sweet/romantic words to an online friend but a different girl/girls(I don't know about them. He has never spoken about them).I am sure he did chat other times as well, but not sure if it was all this romantic. That time he somehow flipped the topic saying that I was kind of having post-partum depression and what he was doing was nothing serious.

Sometimes he says he does not have to stop it as they are just friends. Sometimes he has said he will stop it. But doesn't look like he has. But he has very nicely done it behind my back. He will do it on his office computer where I won't have access to.

I have told him in the past, if he values the online friends much more that he does not want to stop come what may, He might as well leave us and do that and there will be nobody to bother him. But he would not let us alone either.

I am wondering what I should do about his romantic online chatting with his old friend. Especially, when we are expecting our second one.

Note: Some of you might know from my previous threads that I had to do some convincing for the second kid, but he did it willingly and was not forced or tricked into it. But he goes back and forth on it. I guess he just can't decide and stick to it.

Hope to hear your thoughts on it.

Husband online chatting with old online friends