Lessons learned - Pleas share how to amend some things

some of you may know that my inlaws ( MIL) is very manipulative, greedy and does things only for SIL. she expects everything from us with no help.I have been married for more than 8 years and have was sharing some lessons learned with my cousin on her wedding .

1. Lesson Learned: to all the newly weds :unless there is a physical harm involved stay quiet and do not complain directly to your husband for first few years. Instead be manipulative like my mil and say things in innocence, but never directly pointing at inlaws directly .once he has established that trust , then say things directly later.

2. fight with inlaws directly as much as you can : if they taunt you, you give them back right then and there. Do not be an ideal bahu by not saying anything.

3. ignore ignore and ignore and do what you want to do ; if MIL is saying something that you are not interested to do, stay quiet ignore and do as p your wish . This may not work if you are living with them. If they are with you, then do not be afraid to speak up your mind right then and there. Do not go complain husband, he will never understand



Mistake I have made ;

I used to tell everything to my husband and he did not believe me for what his mom does , etc and got against me . He still to date does not accept anything that I tell him against his parents . He has later agreed to some of the things that I pointed out and accepted that his mom is at fault, but still he do not relate that if she was doing something in the past, she is doing that till date . If i say something his initial reaction is to backfire at me .



ho do i amend this now ? can all you with experience your thoughts on some othr tips that you may have for me ?

Lessons learned - Pleas share how to amend some things